Delayed Grief: Why It’s Normal And How To Heal From Unresolved Emotions

Delayed Grief: Why It’s Normal And How To Heal From Unresolved Emotions

Updated Dec 6, 2024 | 07:57 PM IST

Delayed Grief: Why It’s Normal And How To Heal From Unresolved Emotions

SummaryDelayed grief occurs when emotional responses surface long after a loss. Though unsettling, it’s a normal process.

Grief, this complex and overwhelming emotion, does not work according to a schedule. It does not always arrive with the immediate shock and sadness we expect after a loss. It can appear weeks, months, or even years later, catching us off guard at the most unexpected times. Delayed grief can feel like an emotional storm, triggered by a song, a fleeting memory, or even a completely unrelated event. The experience of the unfolding of grief long after a loss might be confusing or disorienting but is actually more common than we would have imagined.

"Grief is not something that happens according to a set timeline," says Dr. Rahul Chandhok, Psychiatrist. The brain sometimes suppresses the pain of loss, prioritizing immediate survival and function, which may delay emotional responses. It is a natural part of how we process profound emotional pain. But while normal, it can be highly unsettling. Nature of Grief and Its Delayed Response

Grief is that universal experience, but it manifests differently in one case than in another. The wave of grief may break immediately for some, overcoming them with emotions at the onset of the loss. For others, however, it may be pent up as they continue managing everyday responsibilities, leaving true emotional response to surface sometime later.

Nishtha Jain, Counseling Psychologist, shares, "The priority of the brain is mostly to deal with the survival aspects of life—be it work, family, or other pressing concerns.".

Thus, it may put off the emotional pain until the person feels safer or more stable, and then grief comes rushing back. It is often a coping mechanism to delay the emotional response so that individuals can deal with immediate tasks while avoiding deeper work with emotions that grief requires. The reality of delayed grief means that many people may experience their most intense emotions long after they expect it.

For instance, a familiar song or some other event unrelated to the loss can trigger a person and make them feel the weight of sorrow they thought they had processed. This response can sometimes feel foreign, even startling, especially if the loss occurred years ago.

Impact of Delayed Grief

While the psychological, physical, and emotional weight of experiencing delayed grief is a part of the human experience, it doesn't make it any less difficult to live with.

Grief postponed tends to materialize in sudden outbursts of emotions, an everlasting sense of sadness, or wave surges triggered by completely unrelated events. Says Dr. Chandhok, "When grief is delayed, it is a sign that the emotions are not allowed to settle down and have a right to be expressed. The body and mind are finding it tough to deal with the situation and thus the result appears as fatigue, headaches, loss of appetite, and more.

This delayed grief sometimes leaves the individual with feelings of isolation. Such a person feels that no one around him or her will understand his or her grief, particularly if the loss occurred several years ago. People around them may not connect with the delayed emotions or may not even recognize that the grief has resurfaced. That feeling of not being understood often intensifies the feelings of loneliness and desperation.

Nishtha Jain adds, "Delayed grief can also prompt other mental health issues such as anxiety or depression since the person cannot integrate the unprocessed emotions. Sometimes, the brain and body cannot differentiate between emotional and physical stress, which is why unresolved grief can have such a profound impact on one's overall well-being."

Acknowledging and Validating Emotions Helps Heal

Although delayed grief can be confusing, it is important to note that it is a natural and valid part of the healing process.

It's a sign that emotions, long buried or suppressed, are now being acknowledged and processed. As Dr. Chandhok explains, "It's important to allow yourself to feel the emotions that surface, no matter how long after the event they arise.". The body and mind are working in efforts to integrate the loss into the person's life story, and only in that way can healing start happening when we allow full presence of grief.

Healing from delayed grief is not a straight line, and it may take quite some time. It will be necessary to have love from family members or help from professionals. For some people, just talking to that special friend or family member they can trust will be comfortable. For others, going to see a therapist or counselor can provide a structured space.

Give yourself the grace to process grief on your own timeline," Jain advises. "Grief isn't something that should be rushed or forced. It's a deeply personal journey, and there is no right or wrong way to feel.

Embracing the delayed response is even one aspect of healing. When a person experiences grief, they are actually able to embrace that pain in a way that becomes part of the greater narrative of recovery and growth. Instead of avoiding it or ignoring it, being honest with oneself about delayed grief opens people up for complete healing and moving on to further self-discovery.

Grief, in all its forms, does not run on a schedule. The delayed grief is just as valid as the immediate outpouring of emotions related to loss. It is a very human experience, one that warrants compassion, understanding, and patience. Whether it is immediate or years later, it is all part of the emotional healing process.

As Dr. Chandhok concludes, "Remember, it's never too late to feel, to seek help, or to heal. Grief has its own timeline, and the most important thing is to honor it—whenever it comes."

Dr. Rahul Chandhok is Head Psychiatrist, Head Consultant, Mental Health and Behavioural Science at Artemis Hospitals and Nishtha Jain is a Counselling Psychologist with a Mental Health Platform- LISSUN.

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Could Microplastics Be Clogging Your Arteries? This Simple Trick Can Help You Get Rid Of Them In Drinking Water

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Updated Apr 25, 2025 | 04:13 PM IST

Could Microplastics Be Clogging Your Arteries? This Simple Trick Can Help You Get Rid Of Them In Drinking Water

SummaryThe accumulation of microplastics in arterial plaques introduces a new dimension to the ongoing conversation about cardiovascular risk factors.

Microplastics—those invisible particles of plastic pollution—may be doing more than just contaminating the environment. According to recent findings presented at the American Heart Association (AHA), they could also be silently contributing to clogged arteries, potentially raising the risk of heart attacks and strokes.

In a study that’s turning heads in the medical community, researchers discovered that fatty plaques found in neck arteries—known as carotid arteries—contained over 50 times more microplastic content compared to plaque-free arteries. Even more concerning, these microplastic concentrations were found to be significantly higher in individuals who had already suffered from a stroke, mini-stroke, or temporary vision loss caused by restricted blood flow.

What Exactly Are Microplastics?

Microplastics are extremely small particles—often less than five millimeters in size—created when larger pieces of plastic break down. They can enter the human body in multiple ways: through the air we breathe, the food we eat, and even skin contact. An even smaller subset, known as nanoplastics, measures under 1,000 nanometers and is completely invisible to the naked eye. Because of their minuscule size, these particles can infiltrate tissues, organs, and potentially disrupt biological functions.

The accumulation of microplastics in arterial plaques introduces a new dimension to the ongoing conversation about cardiovascular risk factors. While high cholesterol, smoking, and hypertension remain the usual suspects, environmental pollutants like microplastics are emerging as a stealthy but significant threat.

A Simple Solution In Your Kitchen?

Amid growing concerns about microplastic contamination, especially in drinking water, scientists have been working on practical ways to mitigate exposure. In 2024, a research team from Guangzhou Medical Centre made a breakthrough. They discovered that a common household activity—boiling water—can significantly reduce microplastic content in tap water.

According to the team, combining boiling with basic filtration can remove up to 90% of nanoplastic and microplastic particles (NMPs) from household water. However, the method’s effectiveness varied depending on the type of water used. In areas where tap water contains higher mineral content, commonly referred to as "hard water," the technique proved especially efficient.

The secret lies in limescale. As hard water is heated, it forms limescale—a chalky white substance—which appears to create a sticky layer that traps microplastic fragments. Researchers found this natural process enhanced the removal of plastic particles from water, offering a practical and affordable solution for most households.

While more research is needed to fully understand the long-term health effects of microplastics, early evidence suggests they may be more dangerous than previously thought—especially for cardiovascular health. Taking simple precautions, such as boiling and filtering drinking water, could help reduce exposure and offer a small but meaningful step toward safeguarding your heart and overall well-being.

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Reading Fiction Can Change Your Perspective And Your Mental Health

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Updated Apr 25, 2025 | 03:48 PM IST

How Just 6 Minutes Of Reading Can Lower Stress And Boost Mental Health

SummaryBooks are the window to the soul and reading is the means to do it, especially for kids as it helps them learn language skills. Studies show that reading can have a great impact on your mental health making it more beneficial.

Reading non-fiction books is not my cup of tea, while they are informative and important to read, when I read for pleasure, I want to immerse myself in a world that could never be. Reading fiction books like the Harry Potter series, Percy Jackson books and others like the Dragon Rider, were the reason I enjoyed reading. Often using these books as a means to escape difficult feelings, I never even realized how reading these books transformed my mental health, along with my perspective.

Reading plays an important role for your mental health; books offer numerous advantages for one's mental well-being. Whether the preference lies with short stories or lengthy novels, colorful picture books or digital formats, various forms of literature can provide valuable benefits. This piece will explore several key reasons why reading is so beneficial for mental health.

How Does Reading Impact Mental Health?

According to a 2022 PLoS One study, reading fiction can improve people's mental well-being. The researchers conducted five different studies to see how various ways of engaging with fiction affect individuals. These methods includes recalling past fiction reading experiences, being instructed to read fiction, discussing fiction in comparison to non-fiction, and discussing different types of fiction.

The research shows that books had a positive influence on people's mood and emotions. However, it appears that simply reading fiction might not lead to an immediate improvement in mental well-being. The brain seems to require a period of processing and understanding the story before positive effects can be observed.

Ways Reading Can Affect Your Mental Health

Mental Health First Aid England, a social enterprise that offers guidance and training for mental health in workspaces, explains that whether the preference lies with short stories or lengthy novels, colorful picture books or digital formats, various forms of literature can provide valuable benefits. Here are some ways it helps us.

Reading captivating books brings joy and immersion, making time disappear. Finishing a good story can evoke sadness or eagerness for more, highlighting reading's positive impact.

Reading as a Stress Buster

Engrossing oneself in a book for just six minutes can significantly reduce stress by lowering heart rate and easing tension, outperforming other relaxation methods.

Acts as a Coping Mechanism

Reading offers an escape from the real world, providing a coping mechanism, especially in childhood. This immersion can be transformative, influencing how we interact with the world.

Building Empathy

Reading fiction enhances empathy, improving the ability to understand others' feelings and thoughts, temporarily boosting this crucial social skill.

Keeping Your Brain Sharp

Lifelong cognitive activities like reading slow down memory loss and reduce mental decline in later life compared to less stimulating pursuits.

Finding Support and Healing in Reading Groups

Discussing books in reading groups can significantly improve mental health, aiding concentration, emotional understanding, self-awareness, and meaningful discussions.

Boost Your Sense of Control and Offer a Safe Space

Discussing books fosters a sense of control and independence, benefiting mental well-being. It provides a positive and safe way to process challenging topics.

Understanding Adulthood

Reading for pleasure in adolescence enhances academic performance, social engagement, and personal development, offering insights into adult life.

Boosting Your Intelligence

Research confirms that reading increases intelligence, leading to a larger vocabulary, broader knowledge, and improved verbal skills.

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World Malaria Day: What Makes Malaria Different From Other Mosquito-borne Diseases?

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Updated Apr 25, 2025 | 02:04 PM IST

World Malaria Day: What Makes Malaria Different From Other Mosquito-borne Diseases?

SummaryOn World Malaria Day, we explore how malaria differs from other mosquito-borne diseases—from the mosquito species involved to symptoms, misdiagnosis, and even surprising historical and cultural links.

On the day of World Malaria Day, as we raise awareness on the dangers posed by this mosquito-borne disease, let's delve a bit deeper into how malaria is different from the other mosquito-borne diseases.

Dengue vs Malaria

Both malaria and dengue are transmitted by female mosquitoes and cause severe illness in humans. There are certain similarities between the two diseases and the mosquito species, which is why the patients and diagnoses are often confused.

As per the co-Principal Investigator, Dr Charles Guissou, for the Target Malaria, a vector control research alliance's Target Malaria Burkina Faso at the Institut de Recherche en Sciences de la Santé, "Dengue and malaria are two very different diseases caused by different pathogens and different mosquito species." “Misdiagnosis between malaria and dengue is common, and this can then contribute to inappropriate medical care.”

Every year, malaria causes 200 million cases worldwide, leading to 600,000 deaths. Many of these cases are from Africa, where children and pregnant women pay the highest price. The World Health Organization (WHO) has also reported that in 2022, Africa was home to 95% of malaria cases and 95% of malaria deaths. The global incidence of dengue has grown significantly in recent decades. Cases reported to WHO increased from 505,430 in 2000 to 6.5 million in 2023.

Difference between Dengue and Malaria

Dr Ajay Gupta, Head & Director - Internal Medicine, Max Super Speciality Hospital, Vaishali also points out the key differences between malaria and other mosquito-borne diseases. He says, "Malaria is caused by Plasmodium parasites, transmitted through the bite of infected Anopheles mosquitoes. In contrast, dengue, chikungunya, and Zika viruses are transmitted by Aedes mosquitoes. This distinction in the type of mosquito also reflects differences in peak biting times—Anopheles mosquitoes bite during nighttime, while Aedes mosquitoes are daytime biters."

"Another key difference lies in complications and disease progression. Malaria, especially caused by Plasmodium falciparum, can progress rapidly to severe illness with cerebral involvement, anemia, kidney failure, and even death if not promptly treated. Dengue, on the other hand, is known for a sudden drop in platelet count and risk of hemorrhage. Chikungunya commonly leads to prolonged joint pain, sometimes lasting weeks or even months after the infection clears," notes the doctor.

There is also a difference between how the mosquitoes that spread dengue and malaria.

What makes malaria different from other mosquito-borne diseases is the species that causes it

The Aedes Mosquito

It is responsible for spreading dengue and has white stripes down the center of the thorax. It also has a resting position where its body is kept low and parallel to the ground, with the proboscis angled downward. It is slender, and the wings have distinctive white markings.

The Anopheles Mosquito

It is responsible for causing malaria and has long palps. It is dark in color and the resting position follows it abdomen at a 45-degree angle to the surface.

Zika Virus

Zika is a viral infection also transmitted by Aedes mosquitoes, which is the first difference from malaria, in the species of mosquito that causes it. As per the WHO, those with Zika virus do not tend to experience symptoms, and if they do, it includes rash, fever, conjunctivitis, and muscle and joint pain. The symptoms are also what makes it different. They appear from 3 to 14 days after being bitten.

Chikungunya

This is also caused by Aedes mosquitoes, and the symptoms usually appear within 4 to 8 days after infection. The symptoms include fever, joint pain, headaches, and nausea.

Yellow Fever

This is caused by Aedes and haemagogus mosquitoes. People who are infected with this virus do not get sick and experience only mild symptoms. As per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 12% of people who have symptoms develop serious illness, which includes organ failure and jaundice.

The key difference between all other mosquito-borne diseases and malaria is the species of the mosquito that causes it. While all the others are caused by Aedes, malaria is caused by the Anopheles.

What Else Makes Malaria Different Other Than The Type Of Mosquito That Causes It?

Drinking Beer Could Increase Chances Of Infection

According to the scientists at the University of Emory, in their 2010 study, they found that beer produces an odour in your body that is irresistible to the malaria-carrying mosquitoes.

It Could Take Four Years To Develop Symptoms

There are rare strains of this disease which could in fact take months or even years to get diagnosed. In one of the rare cases, malaria was diagnosed four years later the individuals were infected, reported UK's The Telegraph.

Malaria And Its Connection With Snow White

In 1943, Disney was tasked with creating a film to promote public health awareness. The result? The Winged Scourge — a rather unusual PSA where the Seven Dwarfs learn how to fight off malaria-spreading mosquitoes.

Malaria Has Killed Four Popes, And At Least Eight Presidents Have Suffered From It

George Washington battled malaria, and the disease is also believed to have claimed the lives of Pope Leo and Pope Sixtus—just a few of its prominent victims.

Malaria And India

The doctor also points out that diagnosis and treatment also vary. "Malaria is typically confirmed with a blood smear or rapid diagnostic test and is treated with specific antimalarial drugs. There is no antiviral treatment for dengue, chikungunya, or Zika—management is primarily supportive," he says.

In India, we often see a spike in these illnesses during and after the monsoon season, However, malaria control efforts—such as early diagnosis, insecticide-treated bed nets, and vector control—have significantly reduced the burden in recent years.

"Preventive strategies like eliminating stagnant water, using mosquito repellents, and ensuring proper sanitation are universally effective. But recognizing the distinct nature of malaria is key to prompt diagnosis and management," notes Dr Gupta.

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