Inner Child: Being Left Out And Rejected In Childhood Becomes A Social Seed For Deeper Connections

Updated Jul 6, 2025 | 04:00 PM IST

SummaryRejection in childhood isn't just painful—it helps shape social understanding, guiding kids to form stronger relationships, adjust behaviors, and decide who truly values them over time.
Inner Child: Being Left Out And Rejected In Childhood Becomes A Social Seed For Deeper Connections

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Imagine a fourth-grader in a classroom full of chatter and potential. The teacher announces, “Form your groups,” and he waits—scanning faces, hoping someone gestures toward him but no one does. That ache in the chest? That’s not just embarrassment or disappointment it’s rejection—and for kids, it lands with surprising force. Or consider the reality for a teenager who finds out that their friends hosted a dinner party sans their invitation. These experiences are not just momentary disappointments; they can be deeply ingrained in the fabric of our emotions, influencing not just behaviors but our mental well-being.

We often think of rejection as a bruising experience to be avoided. As adults, we know the sting—being passed over for a promotion, left out of a gathering, or ghosted after a second date. But for children navigating their earliest friendships and social landscapes, rejection can feel like a signal flare going off in their brains. And according to new and emerging research, that pain might actually be useful.

Rejection, as it turns out, is more than just a blow to the ego. It’s a biological signal, a teaching moment, and a map to social understanding—especially during childhood. Far from just scarring kids, it can guide them to build stronger, more meaningful relationships, if we understand what’s happening beneath the surface.

Rejection as a Social Learning Tool

Social psychology and neuroscience researchers have spent years untangling the emotional toll of rejection and here’s what they’ve found: rejection doesn’t just feel bad—it actually activates the same areas of the brain involved in physical pain. The anterior cingulate cortex, to be specific.

From an evolutionary standpoint, rejection has profound significance. Our ancestors likely cultivated social bonds for survival. In prehistoric times, being excluded from social groups jeopardized one's safety and resource access, rendering social belonging a fundamental human necessity. Hence, our brains evolved to respond with urgency to feelings of rejection; the anterior cingulate cortex—known to activate in response to physical pain—fires up in reaction to social exclusion.

There’s more to it than hurt feelings, as social psychologists puts it, rejection is not just pain—it’s feedback. Neuroscience has revealed intriguing insights into this complex interplay of feelings and actions. In an environment where social dynamics are not static but constantly evolving, children learn to read behaviors, decipher intentions, and refine their assumptions throughout their experiences with peers. Early rejection may lead to reflection on one's behavior, intentions, and ultimately, a more keen ability to navigate future interactions.

In studies where participants were excluded from a simple virtual ball-tossing game, their brains didn’t just light up from distress—they showed signs of processing surprise. That surprise, researchers now believe, may be what turns rejection into a learning signal.

What this means is that the brain doesn’t just say, “Ouch, that hurt.” It says, “Wait, what happened—and what can I do differently next time?” In the social landscape, especially among kids, rejection may actually help refine how they approach relationships in the future. It becomes a kind of emotional GPS—updating their internal models of trust, value, and connection.

How the Brain Processes Acceptance and Rejection Differently?

Intriguingly, while an anxious child might avoid disruptive behaviors, a child conditioned to anticipate rejection might instead develop a more rebellious stance against peer conformity. This indicates that rejection can lead to various coping mechanisms, thereby influencing children’s decision-making processes when navigating peer relationships.

Recent research has found that the brain treats social rejection and acceptance as distinct—but complementary—forms of learning.

When someone experiences acceptance, areas like the ventral striatum activate. That’s the part of the brain associated with rewards like praise, money, or affection. In contrast, the anterior cingulate cortex processes social devaluation or rejection—but not just as emotional pain. It recalibrates a person’s sense of social standing, helping them update beliefs about where they stand in the group.

So when kids are rejected, especially unexpectedly, their brains are doing more than just hurting. They’re recalculating relational value: Who likes me? Who doesn’t? Who can I trust?

That recalibration can actually lead to better social decision-making. It helps kids discern between relationships worth investing in and those that may not be safe or reciprocal. That’s a skill they’ll need their entire lives.

While rejection can serve as a powerful teacher, it’s not experienced the same way by every child. New research from the University of Georgia reveals two key reactions in children who are sensitive to rejection:

Rejection Expectancy: A cognitive pattern where children assume they’ll be rejected.

Anxious Rejection Anticipation: An emotional state where the child fears being excluded, even without evidence.

These patterns show up in fascinating—and sometimes contradictory—ways.

Children who fear rejection tend to conform more. They try harder in school, follow rules more closely, and avoid troublemaking behaviors. In essence, they try to stay in good standing by blending in and performing well.

On the other hand, children who expect rejection often resist conforming. They’re less likely to follow group norms or academic expectations, perhaps because they’ve already assumed there’s no reward in fitting in.

This split in behavior shows that rejection isn’t just a one-size-fits-all experience. How a child interprets rejection—cognitively and emotionally—shapes whether it motivates connection or fuels isolation.

When Rejection Teaches the Wrong Lessons?

Of course, not all rejection leads to growth. Chronic or repeated social exclusion—especially in environments marked by bullying or relational aggression—can reinforce a child’s belief that they are unworthy of connection. This can lead to emotional withdrawal, aggression, or symptoms of depression, often before those children even have the language to articulate their pain.

Children who don’t receive support after rejection may also misread future social cues, seeing threats where none exist. In extreme cases, this hypersensitivity can contribute to the development of conditions like borderline personality disorder, which is often characterized by unstable relationships and intense emotional responses to both praise and criticism.

That’s why parental and educator intervention is crucial. Teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional responses to rejection—and to make sense of their social world—is just as important as teaching math or reading.

What Can Adults Do to Help?

When kids experience rejection, adults often respond with platitudes: “They’re just jealous,” or “You don’t need them anyway.” But these responses, though well-meaning, can invalidate a child’s feelings or prevent them from developing the skills to handle future rejection constructively. Instead, adults can:

Normalize rejection as part of social life. Explain that everyone feels excluded sometimes, and it doesn’t define their worth.

Help children distinguish between one-off slights and patterns of exclusion. Was it a misunderstanding, or is it part of a larger trend?

Support emotional regulation. Teach children to manage anger, sadness, and shame without suppressing them.

Model healthy responses to rejection in their own lives. Kids learn from watching how adults handle setbacks.

Ultimately, rejection teaches kids how to belong. It helps them calibrate their expectations, recognize which friendships are reciprocal, and learn how to show up more authentically in relationships.

When rejection is met with support, reflection, and context, it can become a bridge—not a barrier—to deeper connection.

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Can't Stop Doomscrolling? Here Are Smarter Ways To Keep Up With News Without The Anxiety

Updated Jul 7, 2025 | 03:00 AM IST

SummaryConstant exposure to distressing news can harm mental health, but practicing mindful news consumption helps manage anxiety, avoid emotional burnout, and stay informed without sacrificing psychological well-being.
Can't Stop Doomscrolling? Here Are Smarter Ways To Keep Up With News Without The Anxiety

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If it feels like the news cycle has become an emotional treadmill you can’t get off, you’re not alone. The sheer volume of distressing headlines—from war zones to natural disasters, political unrest to climate collapse—can make staying informed feel like an endurance test. And yet, turning away often feels impossible. For many, following the news is more than a habit; it’s a moral choice. So how do you stay connected to what matters without spiraling into anxiety or hopelessness?

Human brains are hardwired to prioritize threats. This survival mechanism means we’re naturally drawn to negative news—but it also makes us vulnerable to the mental and physical consequences of repeated exposure. Doomscrolling, the habit of endlessly consuming grim headlines, can lead to anxiety, fatigue, irritability, trouble sleeping, and even symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress.

Graphic images and videos shared on social media often carry more emotional weight than traditional reporting. While TV and print journalism tend to follow editorial standards, your social feed delivers raw, sometimes disturbing content with little filter. And research shows the psychological impact can be significant.

Even knowing the risks, many people feel compelled to stay plugged in. If your loved ones are in a conflict zone, if your identity is linked to ongoing social issues, or if you simply feel that tuning out would be irresponsible—these are all valid reasons to follow the news. But here's the thing: the line between responsible consumption and emotional overload can be thin.

What Mindful News Consumption Actually Looks Like?

Instead of attempting to detox entirely from the news (which isn’t always realistic), experts recommend learning to engage with it mindfully. That means paying close attention to your motivations, your emotional responses, and your mental bandwidth before, during, and after consuming news. Here’s how to start:

Pause first. Take a few deep breaths and check in with yourself. Are you already anxious or overstimulated? Are you opening the news app to learn something specific or just out of habit?

Notice your reactions. While reading or watching, ask: How is this making me feel physically and emotionally? Are my shoulders tense? Is my heart racing? Are my thoughts spiraling?

Process, don’t just scroll. After a news session, take time to reflect. Did you learn something useful? Did it change your perspective? Do you feel informed, or just drained?

Even small moments of self-awareness can help you regain a sense of control over what and how you consume.

Red Flags That It’s Time to Step Back

Sometimes, the signs that news consumption is affecting your mental health can sneak up on you. Watch out for:

  • Obsessively checking news updates
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Fatigue or mental fog
  • Feeling hopeless or overly irritable
  • Digestive issues or physical tension
  • Emotional swings, panic shopping, or impulsive behavior
These are signals your nervous system is overwhelmed. The solution? Step away.

What To Do When the News Is Too Much?

If you’re feeling saturated by the weight of current events, take a break. That might mean muting notifications for an hour, deleting social media apps for a weekend, or creating clear boundaries (no news after 7 p.m., for example).

Then reconnect with your body and environment. Activities that require your hands or physical movement can be grounding: gardening, baking, walking outside, even tidying up a messy drawer.

Connecting with others can help too. Whether it's through conversation, humor, or shared silence, human connection can buffer the effects of emotional overwhelm.

And if your distress is interfering with your work, relationships, or daily functioning, it’s time to talk to a mental health professional.

Stay Informed Without Losing Yourself

You don’t have to choose between ignorance and overwhelm. It’s possible—and necessary—to find a middle path.

Set intentional limits: Check the news once or twice a day, from a trusted source. Avoid doomscrolling before bed. Be selective with your exposure, especially to graphic content.

And remember, staying informed is important, but staying regulated is essential. You are more capable of helping others and engaging in meaningful change when you’re not running on emotional fumes. News doesn’t have to wreck your day. With a bit of awareness, you can learn to read the world without losing yourself in the headlines.

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You Are Three Times More Likely To Have Eye Diseases If You Are Dealing With This Health Condition

Updated Jul 7, 2025 | 01:00 AM IST

SummaryDiabetes may be caused by high blood sugar; however, it can affect many people in different ways. One way it can affect you is by increasing your risk of eye disease. Here’s how.
You Are Three Times More Likely To Have Eye Diseases If You Are Dealing With This Health Condition

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There are many conditions that barely show any symptoms, however, they can have devastating effects on our health. Conditions like high cholesterol often do not have symptoms, however, overtime it can increase our risk of developing heart conditions.

New research suggests that people with diabetes who don't manage their blood sugar are three times more likely to develop serious eye problems later in life. Experts followed the health of over 5,600 people in England, averaging 66 years old, for 14 years to reach this conclusion.

Link Between Blood Sugar and Eye Health

The study published in the BMJ found that individuals with uncontrolled diabetes (meaning their blood sugar levels were too high at the study's start) had a 31% risk of developing diabetic eye disease. This is a stark contrast to the 9% risk seen in participants whose diabetes was well-controlled, with glucose levels in the normal range.

Diabetic eye disease often includes diabetic retinopathy, a condition where high blood sugar damages the light-sensitive area at the back of the eye called the retina. The research also linked high blood sugar levels—above 6.5% on an HbA1c test (which measures average blood sugar over two months)—to an increased risk of other eye conditions like glaucoma and macular degeneration.

Why This Matters

Researchers highlighted the importance of these findings, especially as the number of people being diagnosed with diabetes continues to grow rapidly. They noted that the proportion of working-age individuals with a diabetes diagnosis more than doubled in the 2000s.

According to the World Health Organization, 830 million people worldwide have diabetes, many of whom live in low to middle-income countries. Most people living in these conditions often do not have proper treatment available to them, and the number of people living with untreated diabetes has also increased steadily over the past decade.

The research emphasizes how crucial it is for people with diabetes to be diagnosed and to receive support in managing their condition. This support can significantly reduce their chances of developing potentially serious eye disease. The study also underscored the importance of getting a diabetes diagnosis. People with diabetes who hadn't been diagnosed faced a higher risk of eye problems compared to those whose condition was known and managed.

Eye Care and Diabetes Testing

Researchers highlighted the importance of eye examinations for older individuals, particularly those with a diabetes diagnosis. They also noted that the findings support more widespread testing for diabetes in the general public. This wider testing could help find people who don't realize they have diabetes, potentially lowering their risk of eye disease that could otherwise go unnoticed.

Experts stressed the vital importance of supporting people with diabetes to manage their condition, which helps them live well and prevent serious complications. They added that a key part of this involves having an annual review, including diabetic eye screening to catch any early signs of damage. If left untreated, this damage could lead to significant problems, including loss of sight.

Ways to Manage Your Blood Sugar

Keeping your blood sugar in check is key for good health, and there are several simple ways to do it. Eating a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy weight, and getting regular physical activity are all very helpful. Other good tips include tracking your blood sugar to understand what affects it, and eating meals at regular times without skipping any.

Choose foods that are lower in calories, unhealthy fats, sugar, and salt. Make sure to track what you eat, drink, and how active you are. It's also best to drink water instead of juice or soda, and limit alcoholic drinks (no more than two per day for men, and one for women). When you want something sweet, grab some fruit, and always control your food portions, perhaps by using the plate method to guide you.

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Early Dementia Sign That Becomes Apparent When You Are Reading

Updated Jul 6, 2025 | 09:00 PM IST

SummaryDementia is a cognitive degenerative disease that is often not recognized as there aren’t many significant signs of it. Here is one that can help you identify the disease early.
Early Dementia Sign That Becomes Apparent When You Are Reading

Your memories make you and forgetting them can mean changing your entire being. Many people believe that dementia is just when you forget things, but it is a lot more than that. It not only affects your memories, but your behavior and the way you think.

Dementia, unlike what many people think it is, is a term used to define many different diseases that affect one's memory and ability to perform daily tasks. In 2021, 57 million people were affected with dementia, 60% of whom live in low- and middle-income countries with 10 million new cases. Being a cognitive degenerative disease, and it may take some time before there are symptoms and by the time you may notice them it

The earliest stage of dementia is often called "mild cognitive impairment" (MCI). This means there can be small, subtle changes in everyday behavior, even in things like how someone reads. If you've always loved to read a lot but suddenly find it hard to focus, this could be a sign that dementia might be developing.

Understanding Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI)

Difficulty concentrating is often one of the very first noticeable changes with MCI. You might find it hard to focus on a single task, follow a TV show, or read a book, even if these activities were once easy and enjoyable for you. This persistent inability to concentrate can be a key early indicator. Other early signs can include:

Changes in mood

You might start feeling different emotionally than usual. This could mean becoming more easily frustrated, irritable, anxious, or even withdrawn from social situations, which can be unsettling for both you and your loved ones.

Confusion about time and place

You might find yourself getting mixed up about the current day of the week, the time of day, or even where you are. This can manifest as forgetting appointments or feeling disoriented in familiar surroundings, causing distress and impacting daily routines.

Struggling with conversations

Following a group discussion or finding the right words to express yourself can become noticeably harder. You might pause frequently, repeat yourself, or use filler words, making communication frustrating and affecting social interactions.

Trouble with daily tasks

Familiar everyday activities, like managing finances, cooking a known recipe, or figuring out the correct change when shopping, might become confusing or difficult to complete without errors. These slips can impact independence and daily living.

Memory loss

Forgetting things more often than before is a common concern. This might involve recently learned information, important dates, or even recurring events, leading to a noticeable increase in needing reminders or relying on others for memory support.

Common Form of Dementia

Alzheimer's disease is a very common type of dementia. It often causes memory problems, like frequently forgetting recent events, names, and faces, and leads to asking questions repeatedly. People with Alzheimer's might also find it harder to organize tasks and plans and can easily get confused in new places. They may struggle to find the right words when speaking, have difficulty with numbers or handling money, and might become more withdrawn or anxious.

Managing Dementia

While there's no cure for dementia, medicines can help with symptoms as they get worse. For Alzheimer's disease, common medications include acetylcholinesterase inhibitors and memantine.

For people with mild to moderate dementia, cognitive stimulation therapy has shown some benefits. This involves group activities designed to boost memory, problem-solving skills, and language.

Reminiscence work, which uses personal photos and music, can also help improve the mood of someone with dementia. There's also growing evidence that your diet can play a role in your chances of getting dementia.

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