While structure and rules are essential for a child's development, research suggests that excessive strictness can create unexpected effects—one among these is dishonesty. Research has shown that children of extremely strict parents are not just more likely to lie, but they also become very adept at it. The psychology behind strict parenting and its contribution to raising dishonest children is discussed in this article.

Kids are impressionable and learn behaviors from their environment, especially from their parents. When they grow up around strict and punitive parenting, they tend to develop lying as a coping mechanism to prevent severe punishment. Psychologists note that children imitate their parents' actions. If parents use deception often—even small white lies—children tend to learn dishonesty as the right thing to do when dealing with authority figures.

One of the classic instances of parental lies involves saying things like- "If you don't eat up your food, you will have pimples all over your face", "If you don't obey, I'll call the police", "We can't afford to buy that toy."

These kinds of words, though very harmless, demonstrate an environment where children experience that lying is a good strategy to control or escape situations rather than behaving honestly.

Victoria Talwar, a child development psychologist at McGill University, has done research that shows a high correlation between punitive parenting and higher deception in children. Her research was on children from two schools: one that was strict in its discipline and another that was lenient. The research tested the honesty of the children using a game-like experiment to see if they could resist looking at a toy when left alone in a room.

The children between 3-4 years old were asked to guess a toy by the sound it produced. In the last round, a misleading sound was used, and the children were left alone with the toy to check if they would peek. When the experimenter returned, the children were queried if they had peeked at the toy.

Results: 80% of all children peeked, but nearly all the children at the strict school lied about it.

Observation: Not only did these kids lie, but they went out of their way to cover up, showing a more sophisticated ability to sustain deception than their peers at the lenient school.

Conclusion: Children who grow up in environments of severe punishment are likely to be good liars to escape punishment. On the other hand, children who grow up in more understanding and communicative environments were likely to admit.

Why Do Strict Parents Raise Liars?

1. Fear of Punishment Over Honesty

Children are inclined to shun pain and discomfort. When they are punished strictly for not telling the truth, children learn that honesty has ill effects. Therefore, they learn dishonesty as a means of survival.

2. Lack of Emotional Safety

A home where children fear their parents' reactions is a home where honesty cannot thrive. When a child feels unsafe expressing their mistakes or concerns, they will resort to lying as a means of self-preservation.

3. Perceived Loss of Control

Too harsh a parenting style tends to take away the sense of autonomy in children. Children who feel that they have no control over their lives may use lying as a way of reasserting some control.

4. Role of Cognitive Development

Lying involves cognitive abilities like working memory and problem-solving. According to some research, children who lie proficiently are more intelligent. This does not imply that lying must be promoted but that parents must provide an environment where honesty pays and mistakes are seen as learning opportunities instead of offenses to be punished.

Long-Term Impact of Strict Parenting

Authoritarian parenting can appear to work in the short term, but it usually has undesirable psychological and behavioral consequences that last well into adulthood:

• Higher Anxiety and Depression: Constant fear of punishment can cause mental health problems, such as anxiety and depression.
• Rebellious Behavior: Children who are too overly controlled may act out in private, indulging in dangerous activities as a rebellion.
• Strained Parent-Child Relationship: No trust and effective communication can damage the emotional bond between the parent and the child.
• Poor Social Skills: Excessively controlled children often end up struggling with social interactions because they have had little practice at open self-expression.

How to Foster Honesty Without Strictness

• Provide a safe environment in which your child feels free to talk about his or her errors without fear of being punished. Rather than blaming them for making mistakes, show them how they can make better choices.
• Threats and harsh punishments result in children respecting authority less, not more. Use logical consequences that make them realize the effects of their behavior.
• Kids learn from their parents. If they see honesty and integrity in your behavior, they are more likely to do the same.
• Praise and reward your child when they tell the truth, even if it is a tough situation. Rewarding good behavior can reinforce honesty better than punishing bad behavior.

Parenting is not being too strict or too lenient—it is finding the right balance. Though rules and discipline are essential, they must not be enforced at the expense of honesty and emotional health. Establishing a setting in which children feel comfortable being honest will not only discourage lying but also create a more robust and healthier parent-child relationship. Ultimately, children who feel heard and respected are more likely to become honest, responsible adults.

Maternal vaccination with the COVID-19 vaccine during pregnancy can be effective against severe disease and hospitalization from the SARS-CoV-2 virus in babies, according to a large study.

The study, published in the journal Pediatrics, revealed that COVID vaccination during pregnancy can protect the children against hospitalization for COVID during the first six months of life.

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Amid continuing COVID cases, babies under six months old continue to have one of the highest rates of hospitalization — one in five — due to the COVID virus in the US, as per a 2024 study.

As currently no vaccines against COVID are available for neonates and babies, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends maternal vaccination during pregnancy.

Maternal COVID Vaccination Prevented Other Infections

The retrospective study included 146,031 infants born in Norway between March 2021 and December 2023. Of these, 37, 013 (25 percent) were exposed to COVID-19 vaccination in utero.

The findings showed that babies exposed to the vaccine before birth were no more likely to visit the hospital for overall infections (of any kind) than those whose mothers did not get vaccinated in pregnancy.

However, infants whose mothers were vaccinated were about half as likely to visit the hospital specifically for COVID in their first two months of life compared to babies not exposed to the vaccine in utero.

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Among 3 to 5-month-old babies, the risk of a hospital visit for COVID was 24 percent lower in those exposed to the vaccine, but the vaccine's protection against COVID wore off by the time infants were older than 6 months.

Importantly, the mothers' vaccine also prevented the risk of other infections in children.

"There is often an increased risk for a subsequent infection after a viral infection, such as an increased risk of pneumonia after influenza infection, so we wanted to study whether protection against COVID-19 could influence the risk of other infections as well," said lead author Dr. Helena Niemi Eide, from the University of Oslo in Norway, the NPR reported.

"But we found that COVID vaccination in pregnancy protected the infant against COVID and had no apparent effect on other infections," Eide added.

Maternal Vaccine Recommendation in the US

Last week, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists reiterated its recommendation for COVID vaccination during pregnancy.

Despite changes in federal vaccine recommendations due to the US Health Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr.’s anti-vaccine stance, the ACOG urged COVID vaccination for

• people who are pregnant,
• recently pregnant,
• considering pregnancy,
• lactating.

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"Accumulated safety data from millions of administered doses show no increased risk of adverse maternal, fetal, or neonatal outcomes associated with COVID-19 vaccination in pregnancy,” the ACOG said.

When 36-year-old mom Angela Sanford, from Fort Mill, SC, went for an appointment for a Pap smear five years after she had her first child in 2008, her nurse midwife, who she has never seen before asked her a question she did not expect. "Who stitched you up after your first birth?"

Speaking to Healthline, Sanford shared that she just started crying when the nurse said, "This is not right." Sanford said that this was the first time she ever heard the term 'husband stitch'. Sanford was told that her stich was "too tight" by the hospitalist who managed her after her first delivery.

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“He gave you what some people call a husband stitch,” Sanford recalled the midwife telling her.

“I couldn’t connect in my mind why it would be called that. My midwife said, ‘They think that some men find it more pleasurable,’” she recalled. “My husband has been worried about me and fearful of hurting me. He would never have asked for this.”

A 'Husband Stich' - What Is It?

During vaginal delivery, a woman undergoes perineal tears or vaginal lacerations which means tears between the vaginal opening and anus. This causes pain, and requires stitches for grades two and higher. It also takes 4 to 6 weeks to heal. Women can experience from first to fourth degree tears.

Sometimes, a surgical incision is made in the perineum during childbirth to enlarge the vaginal opening, this is called an episiotomy. However, it is not medically necessary or a routine procedure, unless it is a case of emergency.

Stiches are required in such cases that dissolves on its own. However, a 'husband stitch', also known as "daddy stitch" is an unethical practice where an extra stitch is given during the repair process that 'tightens the vagina' to increase sexual pleasure for a male partner. While it is considered a medical malpractice, it is still done to women after vaginal delivery.

Many women face difficulty after the extra stich is given to them. In Sanford's case, she felt "excruciating" pain during sex afterwards.

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When Objectifying Women's Bodies Is Made A Medical Practice

Stephanie Tillman, CNM, a certified nurse midwife at the University of Illinois at Chicago and blogger at The Feminist Midwife told Healthline: “The fact that there is even a practice called the husband stitch is a perfect example of the intersection of the objectification of women’s bodies and healthcare. As much as we try to remove the sexualization of women from appropriate obstetric care, of course the patriarchy is going to find its way in there."

Harkins, 37, said that she "kind of" laughed it off when an "old, crusty Army doctor" overstitched her so she could give her husband more pleasure. In many cases, doctors do it as a routine practice without even being told by anyone. “I couldn’t even process [it], but I kind of laughed, like what else do you do when someone says that? I had just had a baby. I didn’t think much about it because the whole birth experience was so traumatizing, but now that I think about it differently, the implications of that are just crazy.”

Episiotomy Is An Excuse For 'Husband Stitch'

Dr Robert Barbieri, chair of obstetrics and gynecology and reproductive biology at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, told the Huffington Post that doctors were taught in the 50s and 60s that "routine episiotomy was good for women".

“What they thought is that if they did a routine episiotomy, they’d have a chance to repair it and that during the repair, they could actually create a better perineum than if they hadn’t done it. The idea [was] that we could ‘tighten things up,’” explains doctor.

However, a 2005 systematic review in the Journal of the American Medical Association found no benefit to routine episiotomy use. A 2017 Cochrane review “could not identify any benefits of routine episiotomy for the baby or the mother.” In 2016, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommended that clinicians “prevent and manage” delivery lacerations through strategies like massage and warm compresses rather than making cuts on the perineum. Yet, this practice still continues inside the labor rooms.

While you may be buying fast-fashion clothes that are easy on your pocket and also give your children trendy looks, a new study highlights the risk of being laced with a highly toxic ingredient: lead.

The preliminary research, based on lab tests of several shirts from different retailers in the US, found that all the samples exceeded the country’s federal regulatory lead limits.

The US Consumer Product Safety Commission currently has a 100 parts per million (ppm) lead limit for children's products like toys and clothing.

"I started to see many articles about lead in clothing from fast fashion, and I realized not too many parents knew about the issue," said Kamila Deavers, principal investigator of the study, at Marian University in the US.

Deavers began the study after her young daughter’s lab reports showed elevated levels of lead in her blood from toy coatings.

How was study conducted?

The team tested 11 shirts that spanned the rainbow—red, pink, orange, yellow, gray, and blue. All brightly colored fabrics, particularly reds and yellows, showed higher levels of lead compared to more muted tones.

"We saw that the shirts we tested were all over the allowed limit for lead of 100 ppm," said Priscila Espinoza, from Marina.

The researchers explained that some manufacturers use lead (II) acetate as an inexpensive way to help dyes stick to the materials and produce bright, long-lasting color.

Children At Greater Risk

The researchers found the risk is particularly higher among younger kids as they tend to playfully suck or chew their clothes during play.

"Even briefly chewing these fabrics could expose children to dangerous lead levels,” they found in the study, to be presented at the forthcoming meeting of the American Chemical Society.

According to the US Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), lead exposure can lead to behavior problems, brain and central nervous system damage, as well as other negative health effects in children.

The agency considers children under six years old to be most at risk from exposure. Even low levels of lead in the blood of children can result in:

• Behavior and learning problems
• Lower IQ and Hyperactivity
• Slowed growth
• Hearing Problems
• Anemia

The researchers also pointed out safer alternatives to lead-based dyeing agents that already exist. These include natural and less harmful substances such as:

• Plant-based tannins (e.g., oak bark, pomegranate peel)
• Rosemary
• Alum.