Inner Child’ is Health and Me's new mental health series where we deep dive into lesser-known aspects of child psychology and how it shapes you as you grow up. Often unheard, mistaken, and misunderstood, in this series we talk about the children’s perspective and their mental health, something different than you might have read in your parenting books. After all, parenting is not just about teaching but also unlearning.Teachers and parents have, for many years, branded some children as "too emotional" or "too sensitive." Behind these words, there is usually a good intention hiding a misunderstanding these children are not broken or overreacting. They have nervous systems that are designed to feel more deeply, more intensely and more tenaciously than other children.What this actually is, is that sensitivity in children is not as much about weakness as it is about difference. Grasping that difference is important to creating emotionally healthy, resilient, and confident kids.Why Sensitivity Isn't a Flaw?High sensitivity is an old phenomenon. Psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron originally described the "Highly Sensitive Person" (HSP) in the 1990s, explaining that about 15–20% of the population is more sensitive to sensory input, feelings, and surroundings. Kids who meet this criterion view the world with a intensity that at times overwhelms them—but it also provides them with special strengths.Sensitive children sense subtleties that most others do not. They can sense the tension in a room before anyone says a word, catch the smallest change in a friend's mood, or be deeply touched by music, art, or literature. The catch is that they also take on more stress, criticism, and conflict, causing adults to write them off as dramatic or breakable.But studies indicate that this more intensive processing is not a deficiency. Instead, sensitive children tend to exhibit greater empathy, creativity, and sensitivity. Their ability to "feel big" is a double-edged sword: painful at times, but equally beautifully enriching.Neurological research indicates that sensitive children might have variations in brain response patterns. Functional MRI scans of extremely sensitive individuals demonstrate more activation of areas associated with awareness, empathy, and emotional control.Simply put, when most children experience sadness, happiness, or fright, the emotional reaction goes away fairly quickly. Sensitive children, on the other hand, experience the same emotion through several layers—cognitive, sensory, and empathetic. This means it's a longer, more powerful emotional experience.Parents tend to misunderstand this as exaggeration. What's actually occurring is not an exaggeration—it's amplification. Their internal world is cranked up a few degrees, so the same emotional incident registers differently.How Sensitivity Appears in Childhood?All children show sensitivity in their unique way, but there are some common patterns that psychologists and pediatricians observe in highly sensitive children:Deep emotional responses: Crying, laughter, or irritation that appear out of proportion to the context.Profund empathy: Consoling friends, fretting about others, or even getting distressed at news reports or animal cruelty.Overwhelmed in bustling settings: Busy classrooms, loud birthday parties, or disruption to routine can cause meltdowns.Perfectionism and self-criticism: Sensitive children can be perfectionists, setting high expectations for themselves and crushing themselves when they fail.Rich inner lives: They usually adore telling stories, daydreaming, or role-playing, channelling feelings through creative expression.What adults perceive as "too much" is actually a system that has yet to master regulating or expressing its depth.What Is The Cost of Mislabeling Sensitive Kids?When adults dismiss a child’s emotions with phrases like “Don’t be so dramatic” or “You’re too sensitive,” they unintentionally send a message: your feelings aren’t valid. Over time, this can teach children to suppress or distrust their emotions, leading to anxiety, self-doubt, or difficulties in relationships.Worse still, some kids start to internalize shame. They may think there's something wrong with them because they care too much, cry a lot, or require more recovery time after stressful situations.Psychologists caution that this criticism of themselves can extend into adulthood, manifesting as people-pleasing behaviors, burnout, or difficulty setting boundaries.Reframing Sensitivity as StrengthThe major turn is to redefine sensitivity as an asset--not a shortcoming. Research indicates that sensitive children who are raised in nurturing environments end up flourishing more than their less-sensitive counterparts. They do exceptionally well in empathy-related professions, are highly creative, and tend to have excellent emotional intelligence.This is known as differential susceptibility: sensitive children are more influenced by their environments, both good and bad. That means that criticism can cut them deeply, but praise and understanding can enable them to blossom way above the norm.How Parents Can Support a Sensitive Child?Raising or teaching a sensitive child needs patience and redefining expectations. Some things supported by developmental psychology are:1. Validate, Don't DismissInstead of telling a child they’re overreacting, acknowledge what they’re feeling: “I see you’re really upset. Let’s take a moment together.” This doesn’t mean indulging every emotional swing, but showing their emotions have value.2. Teach Emotional RegulationSensitive kids need tools to navigate their depth. Breathing exercises, mindfulness, journaling, or even physical activity can help them move through overwhelming feelings in healthier ways.3. Create Safe Recovery SpacesQuiet time following school, reading nooks, or soothing bedtime rituals provide sensitive children with a space to unwind from overstimulation.4. Support Their StrengthsEmphasizing creativity, empathy, or critical thinking helps sensitive children realize their sensitivity is an asset rather than a weakness.5. Model Healthy Emotional ExpressionKids learn from what they see. Parents who express their own emotions openly and calmly are teaching children that feeling deeply is ordinary and navigable.How a sensitive child is treated during early years determines their adult life fundamentally. Those who are nourished end up being empathetic leaders, artists, caregivers, or innovators. Those who are shamed end up being adults with anxiety, depression, or identity issues.Therapists working with highly sensitive adults often trace the roots of their struggles back to childhood experiences where emotions were invalidated. The “inner child” work many undergo in therapy is essentially about reconnecting with that sensitive child, acknowledging their feelings, and offering the validation they never received.Calling sensitive children "too emotional" isn't just missing the point—it can do lasting damage. It's an era when mental health issues are increasingly on the rise globally, and recognizing the complexity of emotions is more necessary than ever.Rather than trying to teach children to toughen up, we need to teach them to find their way through their emotional worlds with confidence. Sensitivity is not something to be fixed it's a kind of intelligence to be cultivated.Each child feels emotions differently, but for highly sensitive children, they feel them in high definition. They don't need to be "fixed"; they need to be guided, supported, and validated. When we shift away from belittling them as "too emotional" and towards valuing their depth, we open the door for them to become compassionate, innovative, and resilient adults.