‘Inner Child’ is Health and Me's new mental health series where we deep dive into lesser-known aspects of child psychology and how it shapes you as you grow up. Often unheard, mistaken, and misunderstood, in this series we talk about the children’s perspective and their mental health, something different than you might have read in your parenting books. After all, parenting is not just about teaching but also unlearning.

Sometime 90 years ago, a psychologist proposed that birth order could have an impact on what kind of person the child becomes once they grow up. It is true, childhood, of course, shapes your personality as you grow up. But what does it mean to be the last one in the birth order?

It was the COVID-19 pandemic, when I started to jot down how I felt when suddenly I was home with my entire family under the same roof. Thanks to lockdown restrictions, I was again reminded that I am the youngest in the family. This is when I started writing a journal that I thought I would publish into a book once I finished it. I called it "To Be The Second Born". I jotted down my experience of being the youngest in the house, especially when everyone around me, including both my parents, are the oldest in their family.

Contrary to the belief that we are spoiled, I felt that we are often unheard and ignored, because we are always "too young" to be taken seriously. As a result, we revolt and are tagged as defiant. Five years down the line, my boss shared an Instagram reel that described how I felt. The reel went on to talk about how no one sees the struggle of a younger sibling. Or how everyone thinks they always got it easy. When, in reality, it is often because we are so used to being misunderstood that we shut ourselves down, not telling anyone about what is going on. Instead of fighting the 'defiant' tag, we start to live with it. We take responsibility, but never talk about it, because we know we will not be heard.

Watching that reel made me realize that it is not just me, but a lot of younger siblings who feel the same. While the book seems like a distant dream, a piece on it doesn't.

If you, too, feel the same, this one is for you.

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Too Young To Matter?

Krishna, 32, who is originally from Bihar, now in Pune, is the youngest of all the siblings. She has three older siblings, and she tells me that she often felt like a "stupid".

This is because her older siblings were very "authoritative". When asked why, she says, "I think culturally, we tend to equate age with wisdom and hence, anyone older than us automatically gets elevated to wiser in comparison."

She tells me that she, too, struggled putting her foot down and was often treated as a pushover. It was not until she turned 25 that she openly started to question whatever she was told. Before that, she used to hide things just to avoid confrontation.

The reaction was not pleasant. "There was a lot of gaslighting," she tells. However, she stayed firm and made it clear that she needs to be heard too, and should not be controlled.

To get a better understanding of why this happens, I spoke to Dr Rahul Chandok, who is a senior consultant and head of psychiatry at Artemis Lite, NFC, Delhi. Chandok explains, "When older siblings are in charge of younger ones and always telling them what to do or correcting them, the younger child may start to doubt themselves or feel bad about themselves. Being told what to do all the time can make it harder for them to think for themselves or trust their own decisions. As time goes on, they may start to hide their thoughts or not take the lead because they are afraid of being judged or criticized."

This dynamic can also make younger siblings more anxious or angry. Kati Morton, who is a licensed therapist and a public speaker renowned for her YouTube channel focused on mental health, points out that the youngest children might develop a heightened need for external validation to feel secure about their decisions and actions, potentially leading to anxiety about making mistakes or disappointing others.

Chandok explains that this is also true because of repeated invalidation. The reason why younger siblings may often feel like a pushover is because they have been constantly told that their opinions are wrong, "just because they are younger".

"Over time, such behaviors can hurt self-esteem, lower self-confidence, and make it hard to speak up for themselves in relationships or at work," explains Chandok.

But, Younger Siblings Are Perceived As Defiant And Indifferent

This is because people often get the wrong idea, explains Chandok. "If a child is always told what to do and never asked what they think, pushing back may be the only way they feel in control. If they don't follow directions, break rules, or act like they don't care, they might be trying to say, 'I want to be heard'," he explains.

However, not always are the relationships between a younger and older sibling as stringent. For instance, Ayush Upadhayay, 26, who has a three-year age gap with his older sibling, shares that while he has felt unheard, it has not always been a constant feeling. He tries to explain this and says, "They have responsibilities and feel that we are not yet ready for it."

When asked if that made him feel neglected or incapable, he said that earlier it used to make him feel that, however, now, he has confronted his older sibling. "Initially, she defended her behavior, later, she understood why I felt that way."

In Such Scenarios, What Can Families Do?

Families need to make room for everyone to have a say, no matter how old they are. Chandok also explains that families must encourage kids to talk to each other openly. This conversation must allow younger kids to be heard without being interrupted or judged. "Older siblings can make a big difference by asking for their opinions, respecting their choices, and not being bossy," says Chandok.

From a young age, parents too should encourage younger kids to make decisions, make choices, and not just praise them for following rules, but also being unique, thinking differently, even when their opinions may not match with the rest.

If you’ve been coughing for weeks, blaming it on “lingering winter sniffles” or chalking it up to “just getting older,” it might be time to step away from the cough syrup and lean in for some uncomfortable truth. Your cough could be more than a seasonal annoyance. In rare but serious cases, it could be a red flag for a life-limiting condition called pulmonary fibrosis.

What is Pulmonary Fibrosis?

In plain terms, “pulmonary” means lungs, and “fibrosis” means scarring. It’s a serious, progressive condition where lung tissue becomes scarred and stiff, making it increasingly hard to breathe.

Reportedly, there’s currently no cure. Treatments exist, but they mainly slow down the damage rather than reverse it. The sooner you get diagnosed, the better your chances of managing symptoms and that’s where spotting the signs early is crucial.

Symptoms to Watch For

Shortness of breath (especially when climbing stairs or speed-walking to catch the bus)

Why That Cough Happens

Coughing is your body’s bouncer, booting out anything that might harm your lungs — dust, smoke, rogue crumbs, the works. The process involves your vocal cords clamping shut, then snapping open with a burst of air.

With pulmonary fibrosis, this reflex can get stuck on a loop. Coughing irritates the vocal cords, which makes you cough more, which irritates them further, a vicious cycle that can turn even a quiet cup of tea into a coughing fit.

The Four Flavours of Cough

Acute cough – Lasts less than three weeks; often tied to infections or irritants.

Coughs can also be:

Dry/unproductive – Triggered by things like temperature changes, dusty air, or laughing.

Who’s More at Risk?

While pulmonary fibrosis can happen to anyone, your risk might be higher if you:

Are over 50

Managing the Cough

A pulmonary fibrosis cough often doesn’t respond to standard cough medicines. Instead, treatment usually focuses on easing symptoms and improving quality of life.

Your doc may recommend alternative medications used for chronic cough in other conditions. These don’t cure the scarring but can make the coughing less intrusive. They’ll also want to check for other contributing factors like acid reflux, sinus issues, or side effects from medication, because if those are making things worse, tackling them can help.

Everyday Coping Tricks

While you work with your doctor, you can try a few lifestyle tweaks to manage coughing fits:

Avoid smoky, dusty, or heavily polluted spaces

Pulmonary fibrosis is rare, but catching it early can mean more treatment options and better management. Plus, you’ll finally know whether your cough is from a stubborn cold or something that needs closer attention. Your cough could be a harmless side effect of a dusty ceiling fan or it could be your body waving a red flag.

If you’ve ever stared at a packet of mixed nuts wondering whether to sprinkle them over your porridge or just eat them by the handful, here’s your permission slip: go for it. According to Dr Sarah Berry, a professor at King’s College London and Chief Scientist at ZOE, nuts and seeds are not just snackable; they are good for cholesterol crunching. In fact, swap some of your less healthy fats for these nutritional powerhouses, and you could lower your cholesterol by up to 10 per cent in just 10 days. That is faster than most fad diets.

The 10-Day Cholesterol Challenge

High cholesterol often feels like one of those invisible problems, until it suddenly is not. It can quietly build up in your arteries, increasing the risk of heart attacks and strokes. But Dr Berry, during an appearance on the Zoe podcast, said that you can make a real difference in under two weeks by tweaking, not overhauling, your diet. It’s not about eating less fat; it’s about eating the right kind of fat.

And this is where most people get it wrong. “Don’t do a low-fat diet,” Dr Berry warns, calling the idea “radical” to anyone still following decades-old advice. Instead, aim for a moderate-fat diet rich in polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats—exactly the kinds you’ll find in nuts, seeds, and certain oils.

Why Low-Fat Diets Miss the Point

It is tempting to think cutting fat will cut cholesterol, but Dr Berry explains that’s a trap. Not all fats are bad. Saturated fats, found in red meat and some processed foods, can push LDL cholesterol—often dubbed “bad” cholesterol—into dangerous territory. But polyunsaturated fats, abundant in seeds, seed oils, and many nuts, do the opposite.

Simply adding nuts to your meals, whether as a snack, salad topping, or nut butter, can slash LDL cholesterol by 5 to 10 per cent. You have to make a swap. This benefit comes from replacing “harmful” fats, like those in certain animal products and fried foods, with healthier plant-based fats.

Seeds: The Cholesterol Fighters

Sunflower seeds, flaxseeds, chia seeds—they’re all loaded with polyunsaturated fatty acids that support heart health. Stir them into yoghurt, blend them into smoothies, or scatter them over roasted veggies. You’ll barely notice the extra effort, but your arteries will thank you.

Seed oils, like sunflower and flaxseed oil, can also be smart choices in moderation, adding healthy fats to your cooking without the cholesterol-raising impact of certain animal fats.

Rethinking Dairy, Meat, and Carbs

Dr Berry isn’t out to demonise all animal products. Fermented dairy like yoghurt and cheese gets a surprising green light. These foods, she says, don’t have the cholesterol-raising effect you might expect from their saturated fat content. That’s not permission to live on brie and cheddar, but it is a reason to stop fearing your cheese board.

Red meat, however, is a different story. Packed with saturated fats, it’s a direct contributor to rising cholesterol levels. Swapping steak nights for lentil stews or chickpea curries a couple of times a week could make a noticeable difference to your numbers.

Then there’s the carbohydrate conundrum. The real trouble lies with refined carbs like white bread, white rice, and sugary snacks. These are rapidly processed by your body and can be converted into triglycerides, which worsen cholesterol profiles. But whole grains are firmly in the “good for you” column. Wholegrain bread, brown rice, oats, and quinoa can help improve cholesterol levels when they replace the refined stuff.

Building Your 10-Day Cholesterol Menu

Swap your morning white toast for porridge topped with walnuts and chia seeds. Your mid-morning biscuit could become a small handful of almonds. At lunch, toss sunflower seeds into your salad, and use olive or sunflower oil for dressing. Dinner might feature grilled salmon or chickpeas instead of steak, with a side of quinoa instead of white rice.

Why This Works So Fast

Cholesterol levels can be surprisingly responsive to dietary changes. LDL cholesterol particles are constantly being produced and cleared from your bloodstream. When you replace saturated fats with healthier fats, you improve your body’s ability to remove LDL cholesterol. Combine that with reducing refined carbs and upping your wholegrain intake, and the improvement can be measurable in just days.

Dr Berry’s advice is refreshingly realistic: no calorie counting, no extreme restrictions, just sensible swaps. It’s about building habits you can maintain beyond the initial 10 days, keeping your cholesterol low for the long haul.

Forget the idea that lowering cholesterol means bland food and joyless salads. With nuts, seeds, and the right fats, you can eat deliciously and still give your heart a health boost in record time.

You walk out of the tattoo studio with fresh ink that looks bold, bright, and perfect. But within a few days, you notice the colours seem duller, almost blurred. Do not worry! This cloudy look is a normal part of healing. According to dermatologists and tattoo artists, that milky veil over your design is not the end of your tattoo dreams. It is simply your skin doing its job.

The Science of the Skin Screen

As Dr Pragati Gogia Jain, DNB (Dermatology) at ApolloMedics Hospital, Lucknow, explains, our skin has layers. The top layer, called the epidermis, is made up of keratinocytes. When these cells are young, they’re packed with organelles and nuclei, making them opaque. As they mature, they lose these structures, becoming more transparent.

When you get a tattoo, the needle bypasses the epidermis and deposits pigment in the dermis. This process causes a controlled injury, triggering inflammation. In the days that follow, damaged keratinocytes in the epidermis start shedding (desquamation), and the fresh replacements are immature and cloudy.

“This cloudy layer scatters light, making the tattoo look dull,” says Dr Jain. “It’s temporary, and as the epidermis completes its 28-day turnover cycle, your tattoo will regain its clarity.”

What’s Happening Beneath the Tattoo Ink

Sahil Bali, tattoo artist at Devil’z Tattooz, says the fresh-out-of-the-studio vibrancy is like an Instagram filter: beautiful, but fleeting. “Right after we finish, the ink is just beneath intact skin, so the colours look sharp,” he says. “But as your immune system gets to work, a thin layer of scabbing or peeling skin forms. It’s made of dried plasma, old skin flakes, and natural oils, which aren’t transparent.”

This layer dulls the appearance of the tattoo. From day four to day ten, peeling starts. The temptation to pick at those flakes is real, but doing so can yank out pigment and cause patchy healing. “Hands off is the golden rule,” warns Bali.

Why Tattoo Aftercare Matters

While most cloudiness is part of the healing process, poor aftercare can make it worse. Dr Jain says that slathering on too much ointment can trap moisture between skin layers, creating a hazy effect. Over-moisturising can also make the peeling phase messy, while under-moisturising can slow healing.

The golden trio of aftercare:

• Keep it clean, but not soaking wet
• Moisturise lightly with fragrance-free ointment or lotion
• Avoid scratching, picking, or exfoliating the area until it’s fully healed

The Healing Timeline: What to Expect

• Week 1: Swelling and inflammation can make colours look slightly different. Cloudiness starts to creep in.
• Week 2: Peeling is in full swing, and the haze is most noticeable. Do not pick.
• Weeks 3–4: New skin settles in, clarity returns, and your tattoo looks almost like day one.
• Weeks 4–6: Full healing. Your tattoo now has its true colours and crisp lines.

Your tattoo’s journey is a cycle: vibrant due to fresh ink, hazy during inflammation and peeling, then clear again as the skin regenerates. In short:

• The cloudy phase is temporary.
• Don’t touch, scratch, or peel.
• Follow optimal aftercare to prevent infection.
• Always ensure your artist uses fresh, sterilised needles.

As Bali puts it, “Your tattoo is for life. A couple of hazy weeks is nothing compared to years of wearing a clear, beautiful design.”