Cursing Around Kids: Does It Cause Harm?
While the f-word becoming more normal than a 'hi', casual swearing has become somewhat normalized, the issue of whether parents should curse in front of their children has now become more relevant than ever. This has caused quite a debate among parents, educators, and psychologists regarding the effects of this behavior on children.
Some say it does not matter, and others are worried about its impact on children's behavior and social skills in the long run. So, what is the verdict? Let's understand the issue and explore whether or not cursing in front of kids is really as problematic as it might seem.
Parents often find themselves in situations where frustration or stress leads them to use colorful language. From a burnt dinner to a traffic jam, expletives sometimes slip out, and many wonder whether their kids are paying attention. Indeed, children are like sponges—absorbing everything they hear, see, and experience. So, when they overhear their parents swearing, what does it mean for them?
Some parents worry that exposure to bad language from their children will lead down a slippery slope of further inappropriate behavior, like "gateway drugs" to serious problems. Others worry their children will learn to throw around swear words without good judgment, and then there'll be social consequences, including embarrassing moments in school or conflicts with teachers. It's easy to see how this could become an anxiety point for parents.
A 2011 paper on Pediatrics assessed the nature and scope of children's perceptions of swearing in games and videos to television programming by establishing whether exposure to more profanity leads kids into engaging in more aggression than children not exposed. Indeed, moderate positive relationship occurred; that is to say that casual use of cursing may actually affect language as perceived, behavior as perceived and perception on social norms.
However, it is important to understand that the effect of listening to curse words is quite situation-specific and depends more upon the context in which those words are used as well as the frequency by which children are exposed to these words. For instance, when children are exposed occasionally with stressful or private moments, that isn't as harmful as a habitual use of abusive or degrading words.
For a moment now, research has shown otherwise-indeed, that people generally believe to be the converse-swearing does not have dire effects as most people view it. In fact, within controlled contexts, profanities have been associated with positives in language development.
Experts have demonstrated that those capable of fluently using what society will have termed curse words are significantly able to give appropriate expression of complex emotions thereby suggesting that swearing, although careful should be reflective of linguistic and emotionality creativity.
On the other hand, though, some research suggests swearing can also be a way of having a cathartic release. Swearing to relieve a moment of suffering or annoyance has been established to be a pain enhancer. This may suggest swearing in the presence of kids, within reasonable limits, can represent a harmless emotional release for their parents.
However, it would be vital to consider the language being employed. Though slurs used for emphasis or moments of frustration may not do any harm, the intention behind some words can go a long way. Using derogatory terms or slurs in the presence of children is a way of reinforcing harmful societal beliefs and negative stereotypes.
This was illustrated in a 2007 study published in The Journal of Early Adolescence, which discovered that being exposed to homophobic slurs was associated with increased stress, anxiety, and depression in children. Therefore, although casual swearing is not by itself damaging, hate-filled language is.
One of the primary reasons parents worry is whether their kids will adopt the bad language they hear. Children, especially those under 5 years old, are very prone to mimicking everything they hear. If the young child hears their parents uttering these words most of the time, then they are likely to say them as well, without fully understanding their meanings or appropriateness for use. Such situations often lead to embarrassment or awkwardness, especially in places such as school or social events.
However, as children grow older and acquire a better understanding of the language, they start grasping the subtlety of social norms. This is when parents often observe that children who are frequently exposed to occasional swearing are not imitating the behavior themselves. Some children, even those who hear swearing from their parents, do not use it, especially if it is not taboo anymore. The concept is that when the language is not considered a "forbidden fruit," it loses its allure.
Basically, when the swearing gets out of proportion or done towards children, then there is a risk of resultant damage. Experts say that only occasional use of curse words by oneself in private won't do much harm. The actual problem is present when the habit becomes part of regular communication or if it is used in a hostile or to belittle others' manner. Using swelling as the punitive measure or lowering the prestige of children is highly not acceptable in any case.
It's about balance, like most things in parenting. Parents who use the word in a non-abusive manner and in proper context are unlikely to find anything wrong with their children's development. In fact, some research suggests that children who hear their parents swear have a better understanding of language and emotional expression.
So, is cursing in front of kids a bad idea? Not necessarily, if done thoughtfully and in moderation. The real problem is not the words themselves, but the context in which those words are used and the intentions behind them. Swearing is a natural part of language, but when used indiscriminately or abusively, it can be offensive.
Parents should aim to model respectful communication, and always be mindful of how and when they use language in front of their children. Ultimately, the key lies in teaching children about appropriate language and the importance of using words thoughtfully and responsibly.
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"I miss who I was too," says the Christina Applegate, revealing her emotional conversation with daughter Sadie
She is speaking candidly about how life with multiple sclerosis (MS) has changed not just her, but her relationship with her daughter.
The Dead to Me actress, 53, recently shared an emotional moment from a conversation with her 14-year-old daughter, Sadie, on the Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa podcast. Diagnosed with MS in 2021, Applegate has gradually withdrawn from public life as she navigates the daily physical and emotional toll of the condition.
“I don’t get up in the morning with that,” she said, referring to any sense of personal motivation. “I get up because of her. She’s the reason I’m still here and trying.”
But that strength has been tested in ways that have cut deep—especially as a mother. During their recent conversation, Sadie told her something that Applegate says "was like a knife to the heart."
“She said, ‘I miss who you were before you got sick.’ And I do too,” Applegate said, holding back tears. “I miss that version of me very much.”
Applegate has never shied away from speaking about the realities of living with multiple sclerosis.
On Conan O’Brien’s podcast earlier this year, she revealed that she rarely leaves the house anymore. The pain and fatigue have become too overwhelming.
“If people saw what my life was like on the daily, they wouldn’t be able to do it. Because I can sometimes not do it. It’s really, really hard,” she admitted.
And that physical struggle directly impacts her ability to parent. Once an active, involved mom, picking up her daughter from school, dancing with her at home, volunteering in the school library, Applegate now says that version of herself is gone, and her daughter has noticed the change.
“She’s had to see the loss of her mom, in the way that I was a mom with her,” Applegate told PEOPLE in an earlier interview. “She doesn’t see those things anymore. This is a loss for her as well.”
There are days, she added, when the pain is so severe that Sadie simply knows not to ask anything of her. “If she sees that I’m laying on my side, she knows she can’t ask me to do anything. And that breaks me,” Applegate said. “I love doing things for her. I just can’t sometimes. But I try. I try.”
As per the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, multiple sclerosis is a chronic, often disabling neurological condition that affects the central nervous system, the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerves. It is an autoimmune disorder, meaning the body’s immune system mistakenly attacks healthy cells, in this case, the protective sheath (myelin) surrounding nerve fibers.
Without intact myelin, nerve signals slow down or get interrupted, leading to a range of symptoms that vary from person to person. These may include muscle weakness, fatigue, numbness, coordination issues, vision changes, and memory problems.
Most people are diagnosed between the ages of 20 and 40, although it can occur earlier or later. MS does not have a cure, but treatments can help manage symptoms and slow disease progression. The severity of symptoms also differs, some people experience mild, manageable relapses, while others gradually face increasing disability.
One of the most difficult aspects of MS is its unpredictability. Symptoms can flare up unexpectedly and may disappear for long stretches. While the disease doesn’t typically shorten life expectancy, it does require a major adjustment in daily life.
In Applegate’s case, it has meant redefining her identity, not just as an actress, but as a mother and a person. Still, despite the pain and fatigue, her love for her daughter keeps her grounded and trying.
“Sadie is the reason I’m still here. She gives me the strength to keep going,” Applegate said.
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A big concern for parents these days is how kids are seemingly swallowed by technology. They no longer plead to go out and play for ‘just five more minutes’. The serotonin and dopamine boost we used to crave while playing outside as kids, does not seem like a big deal any longer. Could this be due to the increase in electronic device usage?
Parents who are worried about their kids screentime are right to be concerned. Many studies have shown the increased screentime slows down brain development. If certain habits can slow down brain development, are there others that can increase brain development?
A new study published in the Environment International journal suggests that living close to green areas, like parks or forests, might lower a child's chance of developing problems like ADHD and autism. This protective effect seems to start even before they are born.
The study found that children were less likely to experience brain development problems if their mothers lived near green spaces before or during pregnancy. The same benefit was seen if the children themselves lived near green spaces when they were infants. These important findings were published in a science journal called Environment International. One of the lead researchers pointed out that having more access to green spaces in cities could truly support healthy brain development in young children and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
Scientists don't fully understand yet exactly how green spaces might help a baby's brain grow healthily, even while still in the womb. However, they have some ideas. They believe that being around nature can reduce stress and feelings of sadness, encourage people to spend more time with others, and lower exposure to loud noises and very hot or cold temperatures. All of these things could be good for a young child's overall development.
For this research, scientists looked at a lot of information from over 1.8 million mothers and children who were part of the Medicaid program in different states. They used satellite images and the mothers' home addresses to figure out how much green space they lived near. The results were quite interesting:
The researchers noticed that these protective effects were present at different stages: before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and in early childhood. This suggests that there might be various biological reasons why green spaces are helpful at different times.
The study showed that the protective effects of green spaces were even stronger for children living in city areas and for children from Black or Hispanic families. This suggests that green spaces might provide an even greater benefit in places where they are not as common. Increasing access to green spaces in city environments could really support early childhood brain development and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
It's important to remember that this study can't prove that living near green spaces directly causes healthier brain development. There could be other factors that also play a role in a child's risk for developmental problems.
Future research will dive deeper into the exact reasons why green spaces might benefit children's brain development. They also want to explore whether different kinds of green spaces—like parks, walking trails, or playing fields—offer different levels of benefit.
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A baby’s sex at birth might not be the equal coin toss that we’ve always believed it to be. A new study published by the Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health, titled, “Is sex at birth a biological coin toss? Insights from a longitudinal and GWAS analysis” challenges this long-held assumption.
The study was published on July 18 in the journal Science Advances, and it found that several factors, including a mother's age, genetics, and the sex of older siblings—may influence whether she’s more likely to have a boy or a girl.
The research looked at more than 146,000 pregnancies involving over 58,000 U.S. nurses from the NIH-funded Nurses’ Health Study, covering the years 1956 to 2015. What they found was eye-opening: families with three or more children were more likely to have either all boys or all girls than if the sex of a child was purely random.
“If you’ve had two or three girls and you’re trying for a boy, your odds aren’t 50-50 anymore,” explained Jorge Chavarro, professor of nutrition and epidemiology and the study’s senior author, in a quote to The Washington Post. “You’re more likely to have another girl.”
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One of the biggest surprises was the link between maternal age and the likelihood of giving birth to all children of the same sex. Women who started having children after age 28 had a slightly higher chance of giving birth to only boys or only girls.
Researchers believe this could be due to biological changes that come with age, such as shifts in hormone levels or physical conditions that may affect which sperm survive and fertilize the egg.
Additionally, the study identified two specific genes that appear to be linked with the likelihood of having children of only one sex. While scientists don’t yet know how these genes affect birth sex, their discovery opens the door for further research.
Chavarro noted that future studies should explore whether lifestyle choices, diet, or even exposure to certain environmental chemicals might also play a role.
The study also touches on social patterns. In families with two children, there was a higher chance of one boy and one girl. Researchers believe this may be because couples tend to stop having children once they have one of each sex, possibly due to a preference for a “balanced” family.
This idea is supported by another paper published in the Journal of Behavioral and Experimental Economics, which jokingly refers to parents who have three boys or three girls as those who “lose the birth lottery.”
The findings also bring up the topic of “gender disappointment”, a real emotional experience for some parents when the sex of their baby isn’t what they hoped for.
A 2023 paper in the BJPsych Bulletin found that in many Western families, this disappointment often stems from a desire to experience raising both sons and daughters.
In everyday life, these expectations can be seen in subtle remarks like “Four boys? Poor you,” or “Still trying for a girl?”, comments that reflect how deeply society views gender roles and balance, reports CBC.
While the science behind birth sex is clearly more complex than a simple 50-50 chance, experts agree it’s not something to stress over. Rather, it’s a reminder that biology, age, genes, and personal choices all come together in ways we’re only beginning to understand.
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