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Just when you thought pregnancy ended with childbirth, you enter an entirely new phase: the 4th trimester. Pregnancy is the period of transformation, filled with anticipation, excitement, and countless changes. But the actual adjustment starts postpartum—the often-overlooked fourth trimester. As a mother's body heals, hormones fluctuate, and exhaustion sets in; she navigates the delicate balance of recovery and newborn care. Sleepless nights, emotional ups and downs, and diaper changes without an end form the catastrophe, but within all this chaos, love deepens, and a new rhythm slowly starts to emerge and redefine motherhood.
This is a crucial but often forgotten period that encompasses the first three months after delivery when both mother and baby experience significant physical, emotional, and developmental changes.
The term "4th trimester" was coined by Dr. Harvey Karp, pediatrician, who theorized that human babies are born about three months too soon. If they had stayed longer in the womb, their burgeoning brains would not allow them to be born. The first 12 weeks after birth, then, are the adjustment period for the baby and the recovery time for the mother.
This is a time when the baby leaves the warmth and security of the womb to the unknown outside world. For mothers, the body heals from pregnancy and childbirth while it adapts to the demands of caring for a newborn. It is not only a medical or developmental phase but also an emotional and psychological journey for both mother and child.
The postpartum stages are accompanied by radical changes in the physical body. The uterus contracts back into the size before pregnancy, hormonal changes are drastic, and the body undergoes normal postpartum bleeding. Women who delivered vaginally may endure discomfort in the perineum, while those who have had a cesarean section face incision healing.
Breastfeeding poses new challenges. During the onset of milk production, most mothers face engorgement, soreness on the nipples, or problems with latching. Mood swings are also caused due to hormonal changes commonly referred to as "baby blues." Although this situation is normal, prolonged sadness or anxiety may be a sign of PPD and needs to be consulted with medical professionals.
Caring for a newborn brings an unpredictable sleep schedule. Frequent nighttime feedings, diaper changes, and soothing a fussy baby can leave parents utterly exhausted. Sleep deprivation contributes to heightened emotional sensitivity, making the adjustment period even more challenging. New mothers often feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of caring for a baby while also trying to heal.
Newborn babies are used to the womb and its warm dimness, full nourishment all the time, and no air. The little ones are faced with light, hunger, and new sensations upon birth. Several babies seem unhappy during this phase, acting restlessly, exhibiting irregular sleep times, and strongly requiring comfort.
Physical and Neurological Development
Despite their fragility at first, babies tend to grow really fast. During the end of the 4th trimester, most babies tend to add up several pounds and increase in length. What once were jerky movements will gradually become deliberate. The baby also tends to improve significantly when holding up its head.
Neurologically, the baby becomes more alert and interested. He starts responding to sounds, focusing on faces, and developing early social interactions, such as smiling. Tummy time becomes an essential activity to strengthen neck and back muscles, paving the way for future developmental milestones.
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Unlike frequent prenatal appointments, postpartum check-ups are usually only one visit at six weeks. According to healthcare professionals, new mothers should receive continuous care. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends a visit in three weeks postpartum and a more thorough visit in 12 weeks.
Parenting a newborn is teamwork, the contribution of the partner, family members, and friends in feeding, changing diapers, and doing household chores. Small acts of support can significantly help a new mother.
Normal will be feeling overwhelmed or emotionally drained. However, if sadness, anxiety, or feelings of detachment persist, then it may be a sign of postpartum depression or anxiety. Professional help is crucial for both mother and baby's well-being.
Proper nutrition, hydration, and rest are critical. Even tiny efforts, such as eating well-balanced meals, drinking water, and taking a few moments outside for some fresh air, can help elevate energy and clarity of mind.
Connecting with other new mothers can be a lifesaver. Whether through in-person meetups, online groups, or community organizations, sharing experiences with others in similar situations can help ease feelings of isolation.
By three months, things have really shifted. Your baby is more interactive, feeding and sleeping patterns are becoming more predictable, and you, as parents, feel much more confident in your roles. The transition to parenthood does not end with the 4th trimester.
The more difficult phase is often over, and a new rhythm begins to emerge. The 4th trimester might not have universal recognition from some members of the medical fraternity, but it clearly exists and gives real shape to the beginning foundations of parenthood for mothers and babies alike.
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"I miss who I was too," says the Christina Applegate, revealing her emotional conversation with daughter Sadie
She is speaking candidly about how life with multiple sclerosis (MS) has changed not just her, but her relationship with her daughter.
The Dead to Me actress, 53, recently shared an emotional moment from a conversation with her 14-year-old daughter, Sadie, on the Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa podcast. Diagnosed with MS in 2021, Applegate has gradually withdrawn from public life as she navigates the daily physical and emotional toll of the condition.
“I don’t get up in the morning with that,” she said, referring to any sense of personal motivation. “I get up because of her. She’s the reason I’m still here and trying.”
But that strength has been tested in ways that have cut deep—especially as a mother. During their recent conversation, Sadie told her something that Applegate says "was like a knife to the heart."
“She said, ‘I miss who you were before you got sick.’ And I do too,” Applegate said, holding back tears. “I miss that version of me very much.”
Applegate has never shied away from speaking about the realities of living with multiple sclerosis.
On Conan O’Brien’s podcast earlier this year, she revealed that she rarely leaves the house anymore. The pain and fatigue have become too overwhelming.
“If people saw what my life was like on the daily, they wouldn’t be able to do it. Because I can sometimes not do it. It’s really, really hard,” she admitted.
And that physical struggle directly impacts her ability to parent. Once an active, involved mom, picking up her daughter from school, dancing with her at home, volunteering in the school library, Applegate now says that version of herself is gone, and her daughter has noticed the change.
“She’s had to see the loss of her mom, in the way that I was a mom with her,” Applegate told PEOPLE in an earlier interview. “She doesn’t see those things anymore. This is a loss for her as well.”
There are days, she added, when the pain is so severe that Sadie simply knows not to ask anything of her. “If she sees that I’m laying on my side, she knows she can’t ask me to do anything. And that breaks me,” Applegate said. “I love doing things for her. I just can’t sometimes. But I try. I try.”
As per the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, multiple sclerosis is a chronic, often disabling neurological condition that affects the central nervous system, the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerves. It is an autoimmune disorder, meaning the body’s immune system mistakenly attacks healthy cells, in this case, the protective sheath (myelin) surrounding nerve fibers.
Without intact myelin, nerve signals slow down or get interrupted, leading to a range of symptoms that vary from person to person. These may include muscle weakness, fatigue, numbness, coordination issues, vision changes, and memory problems.
Most people are diagnosed between the ages of 20 and 40, although it can occur earlier or later. MS does not have a cure, but treatments can help manage symptoms and slow disease progression. The severity of symptoms also differs, some people experience mild, manageable relapses, while others gradually face increasing disability.
One of the most difficult aspects of MS is its unpredictability. Symptoms can flare up unexpectedly and may disappear for long stretches. While the disease doesn’t typically shorten life expectancy, it does require a major adjustment in daily life.
In Applegate’s case, it has meant redefining her identity, not just as an actress, but as a mother and a person. Still, despite the pain and fatigue, her love for her daughter keeps her grounded and trying.
“Sadie is the reason I’m still here. She gives me the strength to keep going,” Applegate said.
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A big concern for parents these days is how kids are seemingly swallowed by technology. They no longer plead to go out and play for ‘just five more minutes’. The serotonin and dopamine boost we used to crave while playing outside as kids, does not seem like a big deal any longer. Could this be due to the increase in electronic device usage?
Parents who are worried about their kids screentime are right to be concerned. Many studies have shown the increased screentime slows down brain development. If certain habits can slow down brain development, are there others that can increase brain development?
A new study published in the Environment International journal suggests that living close to green areas, like parks or forests, might lower a child's chance of developing problems like ADHD and autism. This protective effect seems to start even before they are born.
The study found that children were less likely to experience brain development problems if their mothers lived near green spaces before or during pregnancy. The same benefit was seen if the children themselves lived near green spaces when they were infants. These important findings were published in a science journal called Environment International. One of the lead researchers pointed out that having more access to green spaces in cities could truly support healthy brain development in young children and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
Scientists don't fully understand yet exactly how green spaces might help a baby's brain grow healthily, even while still in the womb. However, they have some ideas. They believe that being around nature can reduce stress and feelings of sadness, encourage people to spend more time with others, and lower exposure to loud noises and very hot or cold temperatures. All of these things could be good for a young child's overall development.
For this research, scientists looked at a lot of information from over 1.8 million mothers and children who were part of the Medicaid program in different states. They used satellite images and the mothers' home addresses to figure out how much green space they lived near. The results were quite interesting:
The researchers noticed that these protective effects were present at different stages: before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and in early childhood. This suggests that there might be various biological reasons why green spaces are helpful at different times.
The study showed that the protective effects of green spaces were even stronger for children living in city areas and for children from Black or Hispanic families. This suggests that green spaces might provide an even greater benefit in places where they are not as common. Increasing access to green spaces in city environments could really support early childhood brain development and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
It's important to remember that this study can't prove that living near green spaces directly causes healthier brain development. There could be other factors that also play a role in a child's risk for developmental problems.
Future research will dive deeper into the exact reasons why green spaces might benefit children's brain development. They also want to explore whether different kinds of green spaces—like parks, walking trails, or playing fields—offer different levels of benefit.
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A baby’s sex at birth might not be the equal coin toss that we’ve always believed it to be. A new study published by the Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health, titled, “Is sex at birth a biological coin toss? Insights from a longitudinal and GWAS analysis” challenges this long-held assumption.
The study was published on July 18 in the journal Science Advances, and it found that several factors, including a mother's age, genetics, and the sex of older siblings—may influence whether she’s more likely to have a boy or a girl.
The research looked at more than 146,000 pregnancies involving over 58,000 U.S. nurses from the NIH-funded Nurses’ Health Study, covering the years 1956 to 2015. What they found was eye-opening: families with three or more children were more likely to have either all boys or all girls than if the sex of a child was purely random.
“If you’ve had two or three girls and you’re trying for a boy, your odds aren’t 50-50 anymore,” explained Jorge Chavarro, professor of nutrition and epidemiology and the study’s senior author, in a quote to The Washington Post. “You’re more likely to have another girl.”
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One of the biggest surprises was the link between maternal age and the likelihood of giving birth to all children of the same sex. Women who started having children after age 28 had a slightly higher chance of giving birth to only boys or only girls.
Researchers believe this could be due to biological changes that come with age, such as shifts in hormone levels or physical conditions that may affect which sperm survive and fertilize the egg.
Additionally, the study identified two specific genes that appear to be linked with the likelihood of having children of only one sex. While scientists don’t yet know how these genes affect birth sex, their discovery opens the door for further research.
Chavarro noted that future studies should explore whether lifestyle choices, diet, or even exposure to certain environmental chemicals might also play a role.
The study also touches on social patterns. In families with two children, there was a higher chance of one boy and one girl. Researchers believe this may be because couples tend to stop having children once they have one of each sex, possibly due to a preference for a “balanced” family.
This idea is supported by another paper published in the Journal of Behavioral and Experimental Economics, which jokingly refers to parents who have three boys or three girls as those who “lose the birth lottery.”
The findings also bring up the topic of “gender disappointment”, a real emotional experience for some parents when the sex of their baby isn’t what they hoped for.
A 2023 paper in the BJPsych Bulletin found that in many Western families, this disappointment often stems from a desire to experience raising both sons and daughters.
In everyday life, these expectations can be seen in subtle remarks like “Four boys? Poor you,” or “Still trying for a girl?”, comments that reflect how deeply society views gender roles and balance, reports CBC.
While the science behind birth sex is clearly more complex than a simple 50-50 chance, experts agree it’s not something to stress over. Rather, it’s a reminder that biology, age, genes, and personal choices all come together in ways we’re only beginning to understand.
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