The concept of the "golden child" often emerges in families where one child is consistently favored or idealized by a parent or caregiver. This dynamic, while not a formal psychological diagnosis, can have significant emotional and psychological implications for both the favored child and their siblings. The golden child is often seen as perfect, capable of no wrong, and held to a higher standard than their siblings. This child may receive constant praise and compliments, even for minor achievements, while their siblings' accomplishments go unnoticed or unacknowledged. This favoritism creates an imbalance in the family dynamic, where the golden child is placed on a pedestal and the other children may feel less valued or loved.
The golden child dynamic often manifests in several keyways. Constant praise and favoritism, even for minor accomplishments, can create a sense of entitlement in the favored child. Unrealistic expectations, such as the pressure to be perfect in academics or extracurricular activities, can lead to significant stress and anxiety. Overprotection and special treatment can hinder the child's development of resilience and independence. Sibling rivalry and resentment are common outcomes, as siblings may feel neglected or undervalued. Additionally, the golden child may take on an emotional burden, feeling responsible for the family's happiness and well-being.
The way parents interact with their children can significantly influence the development of golden child syndrome. Authoritarian parenting, characterized by strict rules and high expectations, can create a climate where one child is singled out for praise and perfection. Permissive parenting, on the other hand, can lead to overindulgence and a lack of boundaries, fostering a sense of entitlement. Overparenting, where parents excessively intervene in their child's life, can also contribute to the golden child dynamic by shielding the favored child from the natural consequences of their actions.
Being a golden child can have both positive and negative consequences. On the positive side, it can boost self-esteem and confidence. However, it can also lead to unrealistic expectations, perfectionism, and a fear of failure. The constant pressure to be perfect can cause significant stress and anxiety, affecting the child's mental health. Additionally, the lack of criticism or negative feedback can hinder the development of empathy and social skills.
Siblings of the golden child often experience negative emotional and psychological effects. They may feel neglected, undervalued, and resentful. Low self-esteem can develop as they compare themselves unfavorably to the favored sibling. Difficulty forming healthy relationships may also arise, as they struggle with issues of trust and intimacy. In some cases, sibling rivalry can escalate into conflict and hostility.
To mitigate the negative effects of golden child syndrome, parents can take several steps. First, it's important to be mindful of favoritism and strive to treat all children fairly and equitably. Setting realistic expectations and celebrating each child's unique strengths can help to foster a positive family environment. Open communication is crucial, allowing family members to express their feelings and concerns. If the challenges persist, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable guidance and support.
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As summers are here and so are the pool sessions, an Instagram post is making rounds on the social media platform by Ilia Ototiuk, who calls himself an ambassador of discipline, mental and physical wellbeing. The post lists down the reason why kids get sick after a swimming session. The post mentions that the reason is not water, but something else. Health And Me decided to fact check each claim made on the post, and here is what we found.
According to the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), swallowing or inhaling contaminated pool water can absolutely cause illness. particularly gastrointestinal infections like diarrhea. Germs such as Cryptosporidium can survive for over a week in properly treated pools. While temperature itself doesn’t directly cause colds, swallowing pool water can spread pathogens.
The claim that wet skin and drafts cause an “immune system shutdown” isn’t supported by medical evidence. What actually happens is explained by US Masters Swimming: sudden exposure to cold water can trigger cold water shock, affecting heart rate, breathing, and circulation. Extended exposure can lead to hypothermia or afterdrop (continued cooling even after leaving the water).
As per Texas A&M Health and the Mayo Clinic, sitting in wet swimsuits doesn’t cause colds, but it can cause fungal infections (like yeast infections or jock itch) and skin irritation from chafing. Prolonged dampness makes an ideal environment for fungi and bacteria.
The Cleveland Clinic explains that wet hair itself does not cause colds. Viruses such as rhinovirus are the culprits, not damp scalps. While cold environments may help viruses spread more easily, wet hair is not a direct cause of runny noses, sore throats, or fevers.
According to the BBC 2023 report, post-exercise nutrition is important, especially within 30–60 minutes after swimming. The body needs carbohydrates to replenish glycogen and protein to repair muscles. Skipping food doesn’t directly cause infections, but poor recovery can increase fatigue and stress, making the body less resilient.
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"I may or may not burst some bubbles with this comment, but what if I told you that your pelvis was in fact not too small and or that your baby's head was in fact not too big?" says Amber Grimmett, a US-based Pregnancy and
Postpartum Coach. In her post, she also writes that the position most women give birth in, also called the lithotomy position or lying on your back is "against your body's natural birth mechanics". In a video she posted on her Instagram @fierce.not.fragile, she talks about pelvis and baby's head size, explaining how the birthing position that has been made standard may not be right.
She says that when the mother lies flat on her back with knees wide, her tailbone cannot move freely and the pelvic outlet, the space baby needs to exit, "literally closes off".
This, she says, creates a domino effect. Then comes longer labors, more interventions, and higher risk of pelvic floor dysfunction. "Your body was designed to birth, but not in positions that fight against its natural design," she writes.
We did a fact check on her claim and here's what we found.
For most women in the United States today, giving birth means lying on a bed, feet in stirrups, and being told when and how to push. But mounting research, including a 2014 study published in The Journal of Perinatal Education, titled, 'Healthy Birth Practice #5: Avoid Giving Birth on Your Back and Follow Your Body’s Urge to Push' suggests this common practice, known as the supine or lithotomy position—might not actually be the safest or most effective way to bring a baby into the world.
For centuries, women birthed in positions that worked with gravity, standing, squatting, sitting, or even using stools or ropes for leverage. These upright positions made physiological sense: gravity helped the baby descend, shortened labor, and reduced maternal fatigue.
Then came King Louis XIV of France. Fascinated by childbirth, he reportedly preferred to watch his mistresses deliver, and lying flat gave him the best view. The practice caught on among European aristocracy and eventually spread widely.
By the early 1900s, births had largely moved from homes to hospitals. Doctors saw childbirth less as a natural process and more as a medical procedure. Putting women on their backs gave physicians easier access for interventions such as forceps delivery, anesthesia, and continuous fetal monitoring. Convenience for the doctor—not necessarily benefit for the mother or baby, became the standard.
Research over the past three decades has consistently shown that giving birth lying flat has no clear benefits for either mother or baby. In fact, there are multiple disadvantages:
Despite this, U.S. survey data shows that nearly 70% of births still happen in supine or lithotomy positions, with fewer than 10% of women using traditional squatting, standing, or side-lying positions.
Standing, kneeling, and squatting use gravity to help the baby descend and can even widen the pelvic outlet, giving more room for delivery. Even side-lying, which is gravity-neutral, has been shown to reduce perineal tearing.
Equally important is how women push. Many hospitals still direct women to push forcefully for long periods, holding their breath. But evidence shows that spontaneous, self-directed pushing—where the woman follows her own urge, improves oxygenation, reduces maternal stress, and lowers the risk of fetal distress.
In fact, research has found that directed pushing only shortens labor by about 13 minutes on average, a difference not considered clinically significant but one that may come at the cost of pelvic floor damage.
Some hospitals have strict time limits on how long the second stage of labor (pushing phase) can last before recommending interventions such as a C-section, even if there are no signs of danger for mother or baby. Recent guidelines from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) now acknowledge that the second stage can safely last much longer, up to five hours for first-time mothers with an epidural.
However, there is little emphasis on letting women move freely, change positions, or delay pushing until their natural urge returns. This gap between research and practice persists, though midwives and doulas are often more supportive of these evidence-based approaches.
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Getting children to be active and socialize is a big part of parenting. Even kids, no matter how energetic they are, like lazing around and relaxing. However, this habit can catch on quick, but they are not entirely at fault for it.
A new study has found a strong connection between what parents do and how active their kids are. It turns out that children are more likely to be "couch potatoes" or full of energy based on what they see their moms and dads doing every day.
In a study published in the journal Sports Medicine and Health Science. Researchers showed that when parents have an active routine, their children are less likely to sit still for long periods. The study followed 182 kids and their parents for a week and found that children of inactive parents were more sedentary, while those with active parents were more active themselves.
Interestingly, the study discovered that mothers have more than twice the influence of fathers on their children's physical activity. This finding held true even when the researchers considered other things like the family’s income or the child’s age. The experts believe that active parents not only know how important exercise is but also actively encourage their kids. They might be more likely to limit screen time and support activity by taking their children to the park, buying sports equipment, or setting up games in the backyard.
While a lack of time or safe places to play can make it hard for kids to be active, this study highlights how important a parent's example is. The results suggest that by promoting active habits within families, we can improve the health of the next generation. The researchers believe these findings can be used to create public campaigns and policies that encourage families to live a more active lifestyle together.
According to the American Heart Association, physical activity is vital for everyone, but it’s especially important for helping children grow into healthy adults. They suggests that kids and teens (ages 6–17) should get at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity every day. In a world full of digital distractions, it can be a challenge to get kids moving, but teaching them healthy habits now can set them up for a lifetime of well-being.
Kids are naturally active, but they often become less so as they get older, especially girls. If your child's interests change, that's okay—the key is to help them find a new activity they enjoy.
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