Building trust with your teen
Every parent has been in a position of trying to reason with their teenager and them simply leaving you with an eye roll. Maybe you called your teen in for dinner and got only silence or a distracted "in a minute" while they scrolled through their phone. It's a scene so relatable it can make any parent both frustrated and long at the same time. As your child enters their teenage years, the importance of establishing and maintaining trust becomes crucial in your relationship.
This transition is not only about navigating mood swings and changes in interests; it's about the balancing act of your teenager's desire for independence and your need for safety and connection.
A healthy relationship is built on trust. Trust in good sense and abilities, honesty in others-this is the understanding of a healthy relationship. When your child was much younger, he or she most probably trusted you completely-in his eyes, as it were, you're the protector. Now with growing independence, that trust is exposed to be tested. That is when your child becomes more insightful about actions of others, questions if the said actions are actually done.
This transition may create a gap between the parents and the teens. For these people to bridge this gap, mutual trust has to be worked upon. As a parent, you have to learn that you cannot demand trust; it's earned based on constant actions and open communication. Once trust is established, it can significantly strengthen your relationship, laying a solid foundation for your child to develop health relationships in the future.
It is in adolescence that personal space becomes so important to teens. They are at an intensely private stage of their lives, and the desire for privacy does not mean they are untrustworthy. This is pretty crucial knowledge for a healthy relationship between parents and their teens. Instead of this being seen as a test of character, treat this as a time to show your respect toward the growing independence.
But with that freedom comes the danger of bad decision-making. Your teens must learn to make choices-even if those choices might lead them into making mistakes. Mistakes can be very valuable learning experiences that will help them develop wisdom and judgment necessary for adulthood. It may be difficult, but let your teen know it is all right to stumble and to learn from his or her mistakes in order to grow resilient and confident.
1. Step Back and Refocus
Take a step back for a moment and reflect on the significant role you play in your teenager's life. Your parenting style influences how they decide things. Be sure to set up an environment that will foster openness and mutual respect between you and your teen. Do not see your teenager's failures as failures, but as teaching moments that lead to growth.
2. Treat Your Teenager with Respect
It is not easy to respect a teenager who has broken your trust, but it is very important to separate behavior from the person. Treating your teen with respect does not mean condoning inappropriate behavior; it means that you acknowledge their worth as an individual. When you respect your teen, you create an environment where they feel valued, increasing the likelihood they will reciprocate that respect and trust.
3. Focus on rebuilding the relationship
Instead of focusing solely on correcting your teen's behavior, work on rebuilding your relationship. Learn to accept the fact that mistakes are a means of learning. When your teen stumbles, be ready to engage in a constructive conversation instead of lecturing them. Be attentive to their feelings, even when they think and say things that hurt you. This makes one understand the other and gives an opportunity for deeper discussions.
4. Be Patient
Trust can't develop overnight. Be patient with the development process, just as you should be patient with yourself and your teenager. There will be setbacks; commitment to the process is all that will help overcome them. Celebrate each bit of progress, such as a good conversation or a positive modification in behavior.
The teenage years can be quite a messy journey, presenting challenges and many opportunities for growth. By focusing on mutual trust, respecting your teenager's need for independence, and providing open communication, a robust relationship can be developed with them.
This will not only help the teen navigate through the period of transition to adulthood but also into a healthy future relationship. Finally, trust development in an absolute journey with your teenager is one of the greatest gifts you can have in parenting.
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"I miss who I was too," says the Christina Applegate, revealing her emotional conversation with daughter Sadie
She is speaking candidly about how life with multiple sclerosis (MS) has changed not just her, but her relationship with her daughter.
The Dead to Me actress, 53, recently shared an emotional moment from a conversation with her 14-year-old daughter, Sadie, on the Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa podcast. Diagnosed with MS in 2021, Applegate has gradually withdrawn from public life as she navigates the daily physical and emotional toll of the condition.
“I don’t get up in the morning with that,” she said, referring to any sense of personal motivation. “I get up because of her. She’s the reason I’m still here and trying.”
But that strength has been tested in ways that have cut deep—especially as a mother. During their recent conversation, Sadie told her something that Applegate says "was like a knife to the heart."
“She said, ‘I miss who you were before you got sick.’ And I do too,” Applegate said, holding back tears. “I miss that version of me very much.”
Applegate has never shied away from speaking about the realities of living with multiple sclerosis.
On Conan O’Brien’s podcast earlier this year, she revealed that she rarely leaves the house anymore. The pain and fatigue have become too overwhelming.
“If people saw what my life was like on the daily, they wouldn’t be able to do it. Because I can sometimes not do it. It’s really, really hard,” she admitted.
And that physical struggle directly impacts her ability to parent. Once an active, involved mom, picking up her daughter from school, dancing with her at home, volunteering in the school library, Applegate now says that version of herself is gone, and her daughter has noticed the change.
“She’s had to see the loss of her mom, in the way that I was a mom with her,” Applegate told PEOPLE in an earlier interview. “She doesn’t see those things anymore. This is a loss for her as well.”
There are days, she added, when the pain is so severe that Sadie simply knows not to ask anything of her. “If she sees that I’m laying on my side, she knows she can’t ask me to do anything. And that breaks me,” Applegate said. “I love doing things for her. I just can’t sometimes. But I try. I try.”
As per the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, multiple sclerosis is a chronic, often disabling neurological condition that affects the central nervous system, the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerves. It is an autoimmune disorder, meaning the body’s immune system mistakenly attacks healthy cells, in this case, the protective sheath (myelin) surrounding nerve fibers.
Without intact myelin, nerve signals slow down or get interrupted, leading to a range of symptoms that vary from person to person. These may include muscle weakness, fatigue, numbness, coordination issues, vision changes, and memory problems.
Most people are diagnosed between the ages of 20 and 40, although it can occur earlier or later. MS does not have a cure, but treatments can help manage symptoms and slow disease progression. The severity of symptoms also differs, some people experience mild, manageable relapses, while others gradually face increasing disability.
One of the most difficult aspects of MS is its unpredictability. Symptoms can flare up unexpectedly and may disappear for long stretches. While the disease doesn’t typically shorten life expectancy, it does require a major adjustment in daily life.
In Applegate’s case, it has meant redefining her identity, not just as an actress, but as a mother and a person. Still, despite the pain and fatigue, her love for her daughter keeps her grounded and trying.
“Sadie is the reason I’m still here. She gives me the strength to keep going,” Applegate said.
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A big concern for parents these days is how kids are seemingly swallowed by technology. They no longer plead to go out and play for ‘just five more minutes’. The serotonin and dopamine boost we used to crave while playing outside as kids, does not seem like a big deal any longer. Could this be due to the increase in electronic device usage?
Parents who are worried about their kids screentime are right to be concerned. Many studies have shown the increased screentime slows down brain development. If certain habits can slow down brain development, are there others that can increase brain development?
A new study published in the Environment International journal suggests that living close to green areas, like parks or forests, might lower a child's chance of developing problems like ADHD and autism. This protective effect seems to start even before they are born.
The study found that children were less likely to experience brain development problems if their mothers lived near green spaces before or during pregnancy. The same benefit was seen if the children themselves lived near green spaces when they were infants. These important findings were published in a science journal called Environment International. One of the lead researchers pointed out that having more access to green spaces in cities could truly support healthy brain development in young children and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
Scientists don't fully understand yet exactly how green spaces might help a baby's brain grow healthily, even while still in the womb. However, they have some ideas. They believe that being around nature can reduce stress and feelings of sadness, encourage people to spend more time with others, and lower exposure to loud noises and very hot or cold temperatures. All of these things could be good for a young child's overall development.
For this research, scientists looked at a lot of information from over 1.8 million mothers and children who were part of the Medicaid program in different states. They used satellite images and the mothers' home addresses to figure out how much green space they lived near. The results were quite interesting:
The researchers noticed that these protective effects were present at different stages: before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and in early childhood. This suggests that there might be various biological reasons why green spaces are helpful at different times.
The study showed that the protective effects of green spaces were even stronger for children living in city areas and for children from Black or Hispanic families. This suggests that green spaces might provide an even greater benefit in places where they are not as common. Increasing access to green spaces in city environments could really support early childhood brain development and help reduce the number of developmental delays.
It's important to remember that this study can't prove that living near green spaces directly causes healthier brain development. There could be other factors that also play a role in a child's risk for developmental problems.
Future research will dive deeper into the exact reasons why green spaces might benefit children's brain development. They also want to explore whether different kinds of green spaces—like parks, walking trails, or playing fields—offer different levels of benefit.
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A baby’s sex at birth might not be the equal coin toss that we’ve always believed it to be. A new study published by the Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health, titled, “Is sex at birth a biological coin toss? Insights from a longitudinal and GWAS analysis” challenges this long-held assumption.
The study was published on July 18 in the journal Science Advances, and it found that several factors, including a mother's age, genetics, and the sex of older siblings—may influence whether she’s more likely to have a boy or a girl.
The research looked at more than 146,000 pregnancies involving over 58,000 U.S. nurses from the NIH-funded Nurses’ Health Study, covering the years 1956 to 2015. What they found was eye-opening: families with three or more children were more likely to have either all boys or all girls than if the sex of a child was purely random.
“If you’ve had two or three girls and you’re trying for a boy, your odds aren’t 50-50 anymore,” explained Jorge Chavarro, professor of nutrition and epidemiology and the study’s senior author, in a quote to The Washington Post. “You’re more likely to have another girl.”
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One of the biggest surprises was the link between maternal age and the likelihood of giving birth to all children of the same sex. Women who started having children after age 28 had a slightly higher chance of giving birth to only boys or only girls.
Researchers believe this could be due to biological changes that come with age, such as shifts in hormone levels or physical conditions that may affect which sperm survive and fertilize the egg.
Additionally, the study identified two specific genes that appear to be linked with the likelihood of having children of only one sex. While scientists don’t yet know how these genes affect birth sex, their discovery opens the door for further research.
Chavarro noted that future studies should explore whether lifestyle choices, diet, or even exposure to certain environmental chemicals might also play a role.
The study also touches on social patterns. In families with two children, there was a higher chance of one boy and one girl. Researchers believe this may be because couples tend to stop having children once they have one of each sex, possibly due to a preference for a “balanced” family.
This idea is supported by another paper published in the Journal of Behavioral and Experimental Economics, which jokingly refers to parents who have three boys or three girls as those who “lose the birth lottery.”
The findings also bring up the topic of “gender disappointment”, a real emotional experience for some parents when the sex of their baby isn’t what they hoped for.
A 2023 paper in the BJPsych Bulletin found that in many Western families, this disappointment often stems from a desire to experience raising both sons and daughters.
In everyday life, these expectations can be seen in subtle remarks like “Four boys? Poor you,” or “Still trying for a girl?”, comments that reflect how deeply society views gender roles and balance, reports CBC.
While the science behind birth sex is clearly more complex than a simple 50-50 chance, experts agree it’s not something to stress over. Rather, it’s a reminder that biology, age, genes, and personal choices all come together in ways we’re only beginning to understand.
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