Who Is A 'Thought Daughter'? What Every Parent Should Know

Updated Oct 24, 2024 | 08:00 AM IST

SummaryA "thought daughter" requires open communication and empathy from her parents. Provide a secure environment for her to express herself, support her creativity, and acknowledge her feelings. Here's more about how parents can raise and support daughters.
Who Is A 'Thought Daughter'? What Every Parent Should Know

Who Is A 'Thought Daughter'? What Every Parent Should Know

Kanika grew up in an environment where her emotional intelligence has always been a blessing and a curse. Since she is the middle child, she was always introverted, introspective and constantly pondering the deeper meaning behind relationships and experiences. As she reflects on deeper meanings of connections in her life, unlike her elder sister, who was always confident and had a authoritative behavior.

She wondered about everything, from whether she'd hurt a friend to what it was that her parents really wanted from her. So when the term "thought daughter" began to spread online, Kanika found herself nodding along-it was only when she read this emerging narrative that she realized it perfectly fit her experiences.

A "thought daughter" is a new trend in the digital space, which is attracting attention and points to an large component of parenting today: the thoughtfulness, reflection, and often fearfulness of the child. In many ways, the "thought daughter" also resembles the other known "elder daughter," so that responsibility and a tendency to please people is a characteristic trait, too.

But there's one all-important difference-the "thought daughter" is not assertive or controlling, but rather over-thinks, someone whose intellectual pursuits guide her but often leave her feeling anxious or misunderstood.

"Thought Daughter" Trend

The "thought daughter" trend first gained traction after a somewhat egregious internet meme circulated, posing the question, "Would you rather have a gay son or a thot daughter? " The slandering nature of the word "thot" was so prevalent that it provoked massive anger-but, in true internet fashion, this moment of online controversy was transformed into something more insightful.

Women on TikTok employed the word, substituting "thot" with "thought," and bringing about the "thought daughter" character. The young women who embraced the term, however started talking about themselves on TikTok, turning what was once a derogatory term against itself. These are daughters who are ever so lost in their thoughts, replaying conversations, and questioning if they have said the right thing, and over-analysing every conversation they've had.

They are those who turn to literature, music, poetry, and thought-provoking media in order to find comprehension in a world that often seems too much to bear.

What Makes a "Thought Daughter"?

"Thought daughters" are marked by conscientiousness and depth. They often suffer from social anxiety: they worry how others perceive them. Their empathetic character makes them think first of their own emotions but also of the emotions of those around them. Such thinking can be weary at times, but such nature also contributes to their sensibility, care, and sensitivity toward their surroundings.

While "eldest daughters" often take charge of things and lead, "thought daughters" are those who keep to themselves, hiding in the corner. They are reserved and usually are attracted to introvertly aesthetic, pensive activities. Be it book reading, writing, or listening to music that captures their mood, they find their comfort within the more profound, darker corners of media that others will ignore.

But there is a flip side to this tendency: "thought daughters" often crave reassurance. They want emotional validation and a space to explore their thoughts without fear of judgment. This is the crux where the role of parents comes in.

Connecting with Your "Thought Daughter"

Parents with a "thought daughter" need plenty of empathy and open communication. Normally misunderstood, the "thought daughter" needs a secure, judgment-free space to share all her thoughts and concerns. Being reassuring without trying to "fix" can be very supportive as a parent.

- Open-ended questions: Do not lecturing, or dismissive of their concerns. Instead, ask open-ended questions. "What do you think made you feel that way?" or "How can I help you in that?" are excellent conversation starters.

- Validate their feelings: Do not fall into the trap of minimizing or trivializing what they are saying. For the "adopted daughter of thought," even the smallest transactions are important. A simple "I see why you're feeling that way" goes a long way.

- Finally, the encouragement of creativity would resonate well with the mind of a thought daughter. She most often vents her sorrows through whatever creative pursuit she might be interested in: reading, music, or writing in a journal. It can be a therapeutic outlet for many things racing through their minds.

- Although some down time is healthy, too much seclusion needs to be monitored. Help them get their life back into balance by encouraging them to venture out into the world around them, but not so much that they feel overly pressured beyond their comfort zones.

These daughters demand your patience and understanding and an ear that is more welcoming than the mouth of a speaker. These are daughters with the power of introspection: an ability to think deeply of the world and the people in it.

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To Be A Mother With Multiple Sclerosis: Actor Christina Applegate Gets Candid About Her Diagnosis And How It Changed Motherhood

Updated Aug 2, 2025 | 08:00 AM IST

SummaryChristina Applegate opened up about how multiple sclerosis has changed her life and her relationship with her daughter, Sadie. Diagnosed in 2021, the actress shared the emotional toll of losing her former self and struggling with daily pain. Despite her limitations, she says her daughter is her biggest motivation to keep going and stay strong.
To Be A Mother With Multiple Sclerosis: Actor Christina Applegate Gets Candid About Her Diagnosis And How It Changed Motherhood

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"I miss who I was too," says the Christina Applegate, revealing her emotional conversation with daughter Sadie

She is speaking candidly about how life with multiple sclerosis (MS) has changed not just her, but her relationship with her daughter.

The Dead to Me actress, 53, recently shared an emotional moment from a conversation with her 14-year-old daughter, Sadie, on the Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa podcast. Diagnosed with MS in 2021, Applegate has gradually withdrawn from public life as she navigates the daily physical and emotional toll of the condition.

“I don’t get up in the morning with that,” she said, referring to any sense of personal motivation. “I get up because of her. She’s the reason I’m still here and trying.”

But that strength has been tested in ways that have cut deep—especially as a mother. During their recent conversation, Sadie told her something that Applegate says "was like a knife to the heart."

“She said, ‘I miss who you were before you got sick.’ And I do too,” Applegate said, holding back tears. “I miss that version of me very much.”

The toll of daily life with MS

Applegate has never shied away from speaking about the realities of living with multiple sclerosis.

On Conan O’Brien’s podcast earlier this year, she revealed that she rarely leaves the house anymore. The pain and fatigue have become too overwhelming.

“If people saw what my life was like on the daily, they wouldn’t be able to do it. Because I can sometimes not do it. It’s really, really hard,” she admitted.

And that physical struggle directly impacts her ability to parent. Once an active, involved mom, picking up her daughter from school, dancing with her at home, volunteering in the school library, Applegate now says that version of herself is gone, and her daughter has noticed the change.

“She’s had to see the loss of her mom, in the way that I was a mom with her,” Applegate told PEOPLE in an earlier interview. “She doesn’t see those things anymore. This is a loss for her as well.”

There are days, she added, when the pain is so severe that Sadie simply knows not to ask anything of her. “If she sees that I’m laying on my side, she knows she can’t ask me to do anything. And that breaks me,” Applegate said. “I love doing things for her. I just can’t sometimes. But I try. I try.”

What is multiple sclerosis?

As per the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, multiple sclerosis is a chronic, often disabling neurological condition that affects the central nervous system, the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerves. It is an autoimmune disorder, meaning the body’s immune system mistakenly attacks healthy cells, in this case, the protective sheath (myelin) surrounding nerve fibers.

Without intact myelin, nerve signals slow down or get interrupted, leading to a range of symptoms that vary from person to person. These may include muscle weakness, fatigue, numbness, coordination issues, vision changes, and memory problems.

Most people are diagnosed between the ages of 20 and 40, although it can occur earlier or later. MS does not have a cure, but treatments can help manage symptoms and slow disease progression. The severity of symptoms also differs, some people experience mild, manageable relapses, while others gradually face increasing disability.

Life with MS: A new normal

One of the most difficult aspects of MS is its unpredictability. Symptoms can flare up unexpectedly and may disappear for long stretches. While the disease doesn’t typically shorten life expectancy, it does require a major adjustment in daily life.

In Applegate’s case, it has meant redefining her identity, not just as an actress, but as a mother and a person. Still, despite the pain and fatigue, her love for her daughter keeps her grounded and trying.

“Sadie is the reason I’m still here. She gives me the strength to keep going,” Applegate said.

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Children’s Brain Development Sees Improvement With More ‘Green Time’ - Study Finds

Updated Jul 30, 2025 | 03:00 AM IST

SummaryChildren’s brain development has been researched for many years; researchers have found many interesting factors that affect a child’s development. Here’s a new study that shows how to improve cognitive development in children.
Children’s Brain Development Sees Improvement With More ‘Green Time’ - Study Finds

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A big concern for parents these days is how kids are seemingly swallowed by technology. They no longer plead to go out and play for ‘just five more minutes’. The serotonin and dopamine boost we used to crave while playing outside as kids, does not seem like a big deal any longer. Could this be due to the increase in electronic device usage?

Parents who are worried about their kids screentime are right to be concerned. Many studies have shown the increased screentime slows down brain development. If certain habits can slow down brain development, are there others that can increase brain development?

A new study published in the Environment International journal suggests that living close to green areas, like parks or forests, might lower a child's chance of developing problems like ADHD and autism. This protective effect seems to start even before they are born.

How Green Spaces May Help Before and After Birth

The study found that children were less likely to experience brain development problems if their mothers lived near green spaces before or during pregnancy. The same benefit was seen if the children themselves lived near green spaces when they were infants. These important findings were published in a science journal called Environment International. One of the lead researchers pointed out that having more access to green spaces in cities could truly support healthy brain development in young children and help reduce the number of developmental delays.

Why Green Spaces Might Be Good for Brains

Scientists don't fully understand yet exactly how green spaces might help a baby's brain grow healthily, even while still in the womb. However, they have some ideas. They believe that being around nature can reduce stress and feelings of sadness, encourage people to spend more time with others, and lower exposure to loud noises and very hot or cold temperatures. All of these things could be good for a young child's overall development.

What the Study Discovered

For this research, scientists looked at a lot of information from over 1.8 million mothers and children who were part of the Medicaid program in different states. They used satellite images and the mothers' home addresses to figure out how much green space they lived near. The results were quite interesting:

  • Children whose mothers lived near green spaces had a 34% lower risk of intellectual disabilities.
  • They also had a 17% lower risk of autism.
  • For children who lived near green spaces themselves after they were born, the study found a 19% lower risk of learning disabilities.

The researchers noticed that these protective effects were present at different stages: before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and in early childhood. This suggests that there might be various biological reasons why green spaces are helpful at different times.

Stronger Benefits in City Areas

The study showed that the protective effects of green spaces were even stronger for children living in city areas and for children from Black or Hispanic families. This suggests that green spaces might provide an even greater benefit in places where they are not as common. Increasing access to green spaces in city environments could really support early childhood brain development and help reduce the number of developmental delays.

What We Still Need to Learn

It's important to remember that this study can't prove that living near green spaces directly causes healthier brain development. There could be other factors that also play a role in a child's risk for developmental problems.

Future research will dive deeper into the exact reasons why green spaces might benefit children's brain development. They also want to explore whether different kinds of green spaces—like parks, walking trails, or playing fields—offer different levels of benefit.

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Expecting Soon? A New Research Suggests That Your Baby's Sex Is Not Random

Updated Jul 28, 2025 | 03:06 PM IST

SummaryAre you going to become parents soon? Or are you considering having a baby? Then you must know that your baby's sex is not random, rather depends on a lot of factors, finds a new study. Know what these factors are in this piece.
Expecting Soon? A New Research Suggests That Your Baby's Sex Is Not Random

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A baby’s sex at birth might not be the equal coin toss that we’ve always believed it to be. A new study published by the Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health, titled, “Is sex at birth a biological coin toss? Insights from a longitudinal and GWAS analysis” challenges this long-held assumption.

The study was published on July 18 in the journal Science Advances, and it found that several factors, including a mother's age, genetics, and the sex of older siblings—may influence whether she’s more likely to have a boy or a girl.

Patterns Behind the Birth of Boys and Girls: How Was The Study Conducted?

The research looked at more than 146,000 pregnancies involving over 58,000 U.S. nurses from the NIH-funded Nurses’ Health Study, covering the years 1956 to 2015. What they found was eye-opening: families with three or more children were more likely to have either all boys or all girls than if the sex of a child was purely random.

“If you’ve had two or three girls and you’re trying for a boy, your odds aren’t 50-50 anymore,” explained Jorge Chavarro, professor of nutrition and epidemiology and the study’s senior author, in a quote to The Washington Post. “You’re more likely to have another girl.”

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The Role of Maternal Age and Genetics

One of the biggest surprises was the link between maternal age and the likelihood of giving birth to all children of the same sex. Women who started having children after age 28 had a slightly higher chance of giving birth to only boys or only girls.

Researchers believe this could be due to biological changes that come with age, such as shifts in hormone levels or physical conditions that may affect which sperm survive and fertilize the egg.

Additionally, the study identified two specific genes that appear to be linked with the likelihood of having children of only one sex. While scientists don’t yet know how these genes affect birth sex, their discovery opens the door for further research.

Chavarro noted that future studies should explore whether lifestyle choices, diet, or even exposure to certain environmental chemicals might also play a role.

Are Families Subconsciously Seeking “Gender Balance”?

The study also touches on social patterns. In families with two children, there was a higher chance of one boy and one girl. Researchers believe this may be because couples tend to stop having children once they have one of each sex, possibly due to a preference for a “balanced” family.

This idea is supported by another paper published in the Journal of Behavioral and Experimental Economics, which jokingly refers to parents who have three boys or three girls as those who “lose the birth lottery.”

When Expectations Don’t Match Reality

The findings also bring up the topic of “gender disappointment”, a real emotional experience for some parents when the sex of their baby isn’t what they hoped for.

A 2023 paper in the BJPsych Bulletin found that in many Western families, this disappointment often stems from a desire to experience raising both sons and daughters.

In everyday life, these expectations can be seen in subtle remarks like “Four boys? Poor you,” or “Still trying for a girl?”, comments that reflect how deeply society views gender roles and balance, reports CBC.

What It Means for Expecting Parents

While the science behind birth sex is clearly more complex than a simple 50-50 chance, experts agree it’s not something to stress over. Rather, it’s a reminder that biology, age, genes, and personal choices all come together in ways we’re only beginning to understand.

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