You must have heard someone being called 'mama's boy' or 'daddy's girl'. While this may indicate a strong parent-child relationship, have you ever wondered what happens if it breaches healthy boundaries? Psychologists define emotional incest as a time when a parent or a caregiver depends on a child for the emotional needs that a romantic partner would otherwise offer. Another term for this is covert incest. Both the words mean that this is not visible to others and harder to spot than the incest related to sexual abuse. American Psychological Association (APA) describes it as a form of emotional abuse as it violates the boundaries between a parent and a child. In an emotionally incestuous relationship, the parent depends upon the child as an emotional security blanket. In this case, the child has to put the wants and desires of the parent first to receive the parent's approval. How To Identify Emotional Incest?The first sign of emotional incest is depending too much on your child. This may include talking with your child about their relationship problems and seeking the child's help in comforting and consoling them. And also asking child for inappropriate advice. In an emotionally incestuous relationship, the parent might desire endless praise and love from the child and also seek to be the most important person in the child's life. This could also mean jeopardizing the child's own relationship. A parent could also use the child like a love-life partner: This could consist of taking the child on dates, discussing their sex life, or making explicit comments about the child’s body or appearance. Here, it is important to note that emotional incest means no sexual contact.Feeling jealous of a child's relationship: When the child becomes an adult, the parent or caregiver may become envious of their romantic relationships. They may compete for attention, intrude on, or attempt to sabotage them.What Is The Impact Of Emotional Incest?Psychologist Kenneth M Adams in his book Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners, states that emotional incest can cause:a love-hate relationship with the caregiverfeelings of abandonment toward the other parent or caregiver who has left the household or allowed the behavior to continuedifficulty identifying and fulfilling personal needs because the person is so used to caring for othersfeeling inadequate and unworthysexual dysfunction or sex addictioncompulsive behaviour or addictiondifficulty forming lasting intimate relationships