In an age where caring for others often extends beyond professional roles into daily life, many people find themselves emotionally drained. This emotional weariness is known as empathy fatigue or compassion fatigue—conditions once primarily linked to healthcare providers and therapists but now increasingly seen in educators, caregivers, social workers, and even parents.What Is Empathy Fatigue?Empathy fatigue is the emotional exhaustion that results from consistently absorbing and responding to the pain or trauma of others. The term was coined by Professor Mark Stebnicki of East Carolina University after he observed the emotional toll on crisis responders supporting survivors of a school shooting. He noted that professionals in “high-touch” roles—those requiring deep emotional connection—are especially vulnerable.When you engage empathetically, you don’t just understand another person’s emotions; you feel them. Over time, this continuous emotional involvement can result in feeling numb, overwhelmed, or completely detached. You may begin to notice you’re no longer able to “care” the way you once did.Compassion Fatigue vs Empathy FatigueWhile often used interchangeably, there are key differences between compassion fatigue and empathy fatigue.Compassion fatigue, sometimes referred to as secondary traumatic stress, occurs when someone who is typically motivated to help others begins to feel emotionally depleted and detached. It stems from the ongoing desire to help those in pain but feeling helpless in the process.Empathy fatigue, on the other hand, arises when you emotionally absorb others’ distress to the point where it starts triggering your own past wounds or traumas. It is a deeper, more internalized response that can lead to feeling completely disconnected from one’s ability to empathize.Unlike burnout—which is caused by workplace stress—empathy and compassion fatigue stem specifically from emotional over-involvement, often leading to symptoms like irritability, insomnia, physical exhaustion, and even a lack of enjoyment in activities that once brought joy.Why Is Empathy Fatigue on the Rise?Several factors are contributing to the increasing prevalence of empathy fatigue. The blurring boundaries between work and home, global crises, social upheaval, and economic uncertainty all play a part. Many people today juggle multiple stressors—job pressures, caregiving duties, personal losses—without adequate time or tools for emotional recovery.Our desire for control in chaotic times can amplify this fatigue. When people are constantly bombarded with situations they can’t fix, it can trigger feelings of powerlessness, hopelessness, and even guilt.Key Triggers and Risk FactorsFour major factors increase susceptibility to empathy fatigue:Lack of self-awareness: Continuously putting others first without tending to your own needs can quickly lead to emotional depletion.Poor boundaries: Not separating personal time from caregiving or work responsibilities increases resentment and stress.Sudden loss: Grief or unexpected changes can destabilize your emotional core, making it hard to cope.Multiple, compounded stressors: Managing several issues at once can overwhelm even the most resilient person.Ways to Recover and Protect YourselfFortunately, empathy and compassion fatigue can be managed with the right strategies. These include:Recognising and naming your feelings without judgement.Practising mindfulness to stay grounded in the present.Taking breaks, even short ones, to recharge.Asking for help and leaning on your support system.Reconnecting to purpose, through meaningful activities or relationships.Engaging in joyful or playful activities, even if they feel small or silly.As Professor Stebnicki notes, recovery requires a long-term commitment to self-awareness and self-care. The more in tune you are with your emotional needs, the better you’ll be able to protect your empathy—without letting it drain you.